Life Patterns, Themes, Lessons

[Coordinate_Apotheosis]

Ever notice similarities in someone else's life compared to yours?  I see that my best friend and I share a life lesson, of bearing a child and not being there for them, as one quick example of this.

Let's list some themes we've recognized over the years of being in this illusion.  Let's see if we can't make a small road map of the little dirt paths that are the lessons in life we come to learn.  Maybe we'll recognize lessons we each share, and make bridges to discuss them and how to handle them.

Some Patterns I've recognized:
Poor Taste in Partners (Going for the 'bad' guy/girl, the troubled person, the one who will most likely hurt you)

Repeating Bad Experiences with the Opposite Sex (girls teasing you or manipulating you, guys using you or hurting you, as some basic examples)

Addiction (Includes things like addicted to fast food, meat, cheese, or things like porn, technology, or habits like sex and lying, or the self explanatory cases of drugs.)

Rough or Distant Family (Lacking a supportive family, or even having a family that makes life harder)

Regrets of How We Handled Deceased Pets (In my instance, I feel I wasn't loving enough to my pet cat Clem, a friend felt he was too rough in disciplining his old pet dog, Tania at times)

The 'ONE THING AFTER ANOTHER' Theme (Life seems to just keep throwing catalyst at you, testing your ability to properly handle it all)

Intrapersonal Denial (Having trouble making a connection with the self, having difficulty getting to 'know thyself')

The 'Emotional Well' Syndrome (Experiencing a specific emotion in extremely more intense and deep ways than others similar to it, for me this is Anger, for others it has been expressed as Sadness, or Anxiety, or Impatience to name a few)

Monogamy Cheating (Refraining from being faithful to a loved one, this is apparently MUCH MORE common than I originally thought.)

The 'Pathological Dishonesty' Syndrome (having a hard time telling to truth, finding lying and the narratives made from lying easier to handle than being truthful and honest)

Loneliness (Self explanatory)

A Wealth of Poverty (Lessons in learning to find a wealth of being without material comforts or necessities, losing what is 'taken for granted')

Self-Denial, Doubt, and Fear (A 'barrier' of Indigo chakra blockages keeping one from properly performing higher energy functions without first dealing with the lower chakra's creating the higher chakra blockages)

The Bad Job Lesson (Learning to enjoy a bad job, or consistently finding one's self unhappy in a job, or having to deal or handle certain bad job environments in certain ways)

Orange Ray Regression (Becoming more activated in orange-ray energies in response to incoming green-ray energies, moving away from society to a more simpler life)

Physical/Psychological Limitations (Such as epilepsy or autism)

Fatherless/Motherless//Dead-Beat Father/Uncaring Mother Situations (Such as bearing a child and not being there for them, whether it be because of death or divorce or just by choice)

[list will be expanded upon]

FURTHER, to those of you who work with hundreds of customers a day have you ever noticed a sort of energetic theme overlaying a day (akin to Astrology's horoscope concept, that certain days effect certain people in certain ways)?  Some energies I've noticed that permeate across groups of people on some days include:

Reduced Energy/Tiredness

Irritability/Impatience

Easily Joyous/A 'Happy' Day

Depressed Days

Motivating Days (where everything feels easier to spontaneously do)

Lazy Days (...Self explanatory I imagine lol)

Confrontational Days ("People better stay out of my f-bleep- way today!!!")

Content Days ("Today is so beautiful, I could take an hour walk in this!  Those people are beautiful, I love you random people!")

[list will be expanded upon]

Would anyone like to help me list some more examples of these things, perhaps so that one day we'll have a sort of guide post to help us ascertain some potential clues to present issues?  Any additions I'll edit into this post.  Further if you have a more specific genre (such as a literal 'theme' genre) then please form a list and I'll add it into this post

Let's parse the 'Lessons' of 3D and make a small guide to them once we've got a nice meaty list going on!

[earth_spirit]

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[Coordinate_Apotheosis]

Ah, the 'higher' lessons, such as discerning hope from apparently absence of meaning.

I took...A looooong night one night, to ascertain if I was right, or just twisting my beliefs into cruel distortions, and meditated on what the point of this all was.  I kept coming back to, the point is to make a point, in that there is no objective point beyond serving the self of creator.  This means the point that there is no point allow's us to make a point that is just as valid as any other, as no point exists so any point is as important as the next as there's no judgment criteria, no reflection or comparison to judge by.

It means we make what is important to us, and must find our own reasons, and not any that might belong to another or the divine undifferentiated self.

I feel I should share this as last I spoke of such things I was lost in them.

I am trying to not be so critical of society, yet it bothers and disturbs me so deeply for ALL the reasons you just stated.

What an incredibly good post, I'd like it if I weren't abstaining from the like button function.

[Coordinate_Apotheosis]

Then there's themes like today, that I can only call illogical.  It's a crazy day apparently.

Feels like nobody gives a crap about customers.  Feel's like I got scammed today, go figure.

I'll call these days.  Catalytic Events...

Feels like one of these days always comes around after a dejavu experience too, I wonder if that's like a series or sequence of days kind of thing.

Just forgive and forget.  

Or for some people. like me, it can be simply called Emotional Control.

I think my greatest catalyst is myself, hah. Well...As the Vulcans say, we're here to serve.  

[earth_spirit]

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[earth_spirit]

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[Jade]

Feels like nobody gives a crap about customers.  Feel's like I got scammed today, go figure.

Just pulling this out. I think it's common for us to assign a malicious intent to people when ignorance/stupidity/a simple mistake could be the cause. Like, getting cut off in traffic - you think, what a jerk! But maybe that person was just really distracted by their kids in the back, or their dog, or on their way to work and running a little late and more obsessed with thinking about being scolded by their jerk boss. We all make mistakes, I think it's better to "choose the positive interpretation of catalyst" and not assume that the person was deliberately trying to squash me for their gain. I'd definitely like to get off that wheel.

[Minyatur]

Feels like nobody gives a crap about customers.  Feel's like I got scammed today, go figure.

Just pulling this out. I think it's common for us to assign a malicious intent to people when ignorance/stupidity/a simple mistake could be the cause. Like, getting cut off in traffic - you think, what a jerk! But maybe that person was just really distracted by their kids in the back, or their dog, or on their way to work and running a little late and more obsessed with thinking about being scolded by their jerk boss. We all make mistakes, I think it's better to "choose the positive interpretation of catalyst" and not assume that the person was deliberately trying to squash me for their gain. I'd definitely like to get off that wheel.

Well even so, if the person really did just want to cut you then you can wonder why the person is so anxious to get somewhere one car faster. Most people who are angry drivers are not happy drivers, so there isn't much a point on hating someone for being in an unhappy state themselves, other than locking yourself in an unhappy state too. A look of compassion and sending a positive energy to this angry person is probably more healthy for the self.

But you're right many people expect the worse from others as they try to view themselves in an intent of consciously doing the same deed from their own parameters of beingness.

[Minyatur]

On the general topic of addiction, the most helpful view I think is probably to gain awareness that there is no such thing as addictions and instead conflicting needs/desires.

Some have tried to convince me I had a problem with cigarettes for all the years I've been smoking it. That I was addicted and couldn't do without but for myself I sought knowledge for the unconscious reasons of why I was smoking and acknowledged it as my desire. Then one day I did a MDMA trip and worked with the emotional root of why I had started smoking them and lost all appreciation I had for them. I still finished my pack, tried one on a few occasions but I just can't really enjoy them anymore because I ceased to have a need for them.

So what I'm saying is basicly that nothing is overcome and that which is not needed falls away. To view things through the scope of addictions is an overcoming mentality that seeks not to know why the self has a need for what it has a need of, it rejects to avoid distilling.

There is no such thing as addiction, there is what you are resonant with.

[Agua del Cielo]

i think there arme many subjects worth discussing in this thread!
i just think there are too many and we if we discuss them all here, a loot will ne lost.

why dont we start the ones we resonate with in dedicated threads?

for example "Bad Taste in partnerchoice"?

[sjel]

Maybe the biggest one for me is thinking that something will be permanent. Or rather, forgetting that everything changes infinitely.

No, the biggest one is how I always forget that All Is Well.

It's all ok guys, remember? Remember? You Are Choosing to Awaken

[Coordinate_Apotheosis]

All is Well in Hell?

Here's one to ponder, ever have an old friend who was no longer in your life, only for someone very similar to them to come into your life a bit later on?

Would that be like... a recurring friend theme?

The Recurring Friend Theme (Where a similar or familiar personality of friend persists across spans of time yet might be different people.)

[Coordinate_Apotheosis]

i think there arme many subjects worth discussing in this thread!
i just think there are too many and we if we discuss them all here, a loot will ne lost.

why dont we start the ones we resonate with in dedicated threads?

for example "Bad Taste in partnerchoice"?

If you desire this, it shall be done

But don't let me stop you from starting a thread yourself, I sometimes feel like had another made a similar thread to one I've made, they would have described things much more fluently, concisely, efficiently, much better than I.

[Nía]

On the general topic of addiction, the most helpful view I think is probably to gain awareness that there is no such thing as addictions and instead conflicting needs/desires.

Got a TED talk here by a lovely journalist that ties in, I believe, with what Minyatur is saying:

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[Diana]

The Ted Talk on addiction was fantastic. Thank you Nia.

[flofrog]

On the general topic of addiction, the most helpful view I think is probably to gain awareness that there is no such thing as addictions and instead conflicting needs/desires.

Some have tried to convince me I had a problem with cigarettes for all the years I've been smoking it. That I was addicted and couldn't do without but for myself I sought knowledge for the unconscious reasons of why I was smoking and acknowledged it as my desire. Then one day I did a MDMA trip and worked with the emotional root of why I had started smoking them and lost all appreciation I had for them. I still finished my pack, tried one on a few occasions but I just can't really enjoy them anymore because I ceased to have a need for them.

So what I'm saying is basicly that nothing is overcome and that which is not needed falls away. To view things through the scope of addictions is an overcoming mentality that seeks not to know why the self has a need for what it has a need of, it rejects to avoid distilling.

There is no such thing as addiction, there is what you are resonant with.

This is so interesting Minyatur, about the emotional root...
reading what you said, I remembered reading one of Carlos Castaneda's books a long time ago like... in the 70's ! and Don Juan at one time said to Castaneda, " you think you have an addiction, but in fact it is so simple, you just drop it ! " Whether Castaneda's books were facts or fiction, I remember how I thought there was something quite true about this. At the time I was smoking plain cigarettes, and some time later I just dropped it. lol. But the emotional root, that is so interesting.

[Agua del Cielo]

i would like to mention emotional addiction, which is probably the hardest to overcome or even to notice!
this would ne being addicted to a certain,usually negative, emotional state and recreating it over and over, Even After the Root has been healed.Eckhard tolle refers to this in General as "pain body"
But still i think wie should discuss These subjects in dedicated Threads, otherwise much will be lost...

[Nicholas]

The life lesson for me is communication and sensitivity, which is a wisdom/love imbalance. I have upset the feelings of people in my life on more than one occasion. One particular friend is still waiting ( I hope ) for my response. 

Imagine being round a friends house and you suddenly call them a "crap host". It's been almost a year since we last communicated, and I ask myself, "did we ever communicate?". I became so frustrated with listening to his nonsensical hiphop music, to the point of accusing him of being "insensitive" (ie a crap host). 

How do I tell him that his taste in music bores the hell out of me, without me explicitly telling him that his taste in music sucks!? 

So I just told him it sucks, and so he took it that I thought he also sucked. I was kind of glad that I did not have to go back, as that meant not having to listen to more "nonsense". The truth is, is that we are at differing levels of development, and I have proved unable to mitigate and balance that realisation. It's a reductionist and judgemental thing on my side, because I see where he is, and yet feel upset that he does not see where I am. Or at least won't attempt to engage in what interests me, given that I feel practically tortured by tolerating his own preferences!

[AnthroHeart]

I finally have a sense of peace knowing my purpose at this time. Since I've been practicing what works for me, my mom has seemed to calm down.
She didn't like the microwave I bought. But then yesterday she said she'd teach me how to cook using it.
She still uses her own microwave (we have 2 now) in the kitchen though.

I've cleared out a lot of my inner turmoil. I see things flashing in the corners of my eye and look and it's gone.
I'm just working on raising my vibration, and going to clear up the calcification of my pineal with iodine and magnesium supplements.