Feelings

[Matt1]

How do you get in touch with your feelings? As a man and i think i speak for most men when i say this, we are taught how to suppress our feelings and to remain in control, if we cannot do this we are basically shamed or punished. It almost feels like a fear of feeling feelings. We are taught through fear not to feel in order to become what is consider socially acceptably masculine. I think one of my major blockages is getting in tune with my feelings, i can only assume that i have over the years like many people suppressed negative emotions and held off positive emotions due to perhaps a fear of social rejection or social punishment. If one shows negative emotions this is then considered to be out of control or a weakness, if one shows positive emotions i often get the feeling that through other peoples jealously they put me down. It all goes back to the emotional suppress and control of an individual . I think this block would effect the Yellow and Orange centers, creating an environment not productive for polarity.  I have been looking at some basic psychology of emotions and i have been made aware that we have 6 basic emotions 3 positive and 3 negative.  Love, Joy, Surprise and Anger, Fear, Sadness.

The psychology guides suggest that being mindful of sensations in the body is a good place to start as emotions have an connection in the body, i think this basically corresponds to the energy centers. Then through an acceptance of these emotions and allowing them to be felt, would clear out some of the emotional suppressed unconsciousness thus allowing for the cultivation of more positive emotions. I think what i do is become aware of a feeling and see its correspondence in the body, lets say its sorrow at the eyes, i am then able to put it out, almost like how someone would put on a spark or a flame from a candle with the fingers, stopping it before it begins. I can only assume this is from a fear of the emotions, perhaps that once the emotion is felt it wont stop, however this is nonsense because of impermanence. Perhaps then the issue at hand is finding catalyst that will evoke an emotional response in a safe environment which it can be expressed.

Any thoughts?


 

[ada]

I can understand you personally, before the awakening I had the suppression of feelings which became a suppression of thoughts that lead to uncontrollable anxiety. I had to lock my self in a dark room to overcome the fear of nothingness, prove my self, once more, that all is well.
After I overcame the fear from social judgment the people who were no good for me simply faded.
I think wanderers experience this a lot more, we want to fit in, but fear of rejection.

[Jade]

I think a good way to work on getting in tune with emotions would be interacting face to face with other humans in a setting where you can experience their emotions. Then you can "tune in" to that vibration. I think this can also work vicariously through TV or other mediums too - to take the effort to tune in to what you perceive as the strong emotions of another. This is a "safe" way to experience emotions because you can always remind yourself that they aren't even yours. But, empathy is scary...

[BlatzAdict]

How do you get in touch with your feelings? As a man and i think i speak for most men when i say this, we are taught how to suppress our feelings and to remain in control, if we cannot do this we are basically shamed or punished. It almost feels like a fear of feeling feelings. We are taught through fear not to feel in order to become what is consider socially acceptably masculine. I think one of my major blockages is getting in tune with my feelings, i can only assume that i have over the years like many people suppressed negative emotions and held off positive emotions due to perhaps a fear of social rejection or social punishment. If one shows negative emotions this is then considered to be out of control or a weakness, if one shows positive emotions i often get the feeling that through other peoples jealously they put me down. It all goes back to the emotional suppress and control of an individual . I think this block would effect the Yellow and Orange centers, creating an environment not productive for polarity.  I have been looking at some basic psychology of emotions and i have been made aware that we have 6 basic emotions 3 positive and 3 negative.  Love, Joy, Surprise and Anger, Fear, Sadness.

The psychology guides suggest that being mindful of sensations in the body is a good place to start as emotions have an connection in the body, i think this basically corresponds to the energy centers. Then through an acceptance of these emotions and allowing them to be felt, would clear out some of the emotional suppressed unconsciousness thus allowing for the cultivation of more positive emotions. I think what i do is become aware of a feeling and see its correspondence in the body, lets say its sorrow at the eyes, i am then able to put it out, almost like how someone would put on a spark or a flame from a candle with the fingers, stopping it before it begins. I can only assume this is from a fear of the emotions, perhaps that once the emotion is felt it wont stop, however this is nonsense because of impermanence. Perhaps then the issue at hand is finding catalyst that will evoke an emotional response in a safe environment which it can be expressed.


Any thoughts?

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At first I used to think pulling out the blockage was a simple visualization though, this does not cut at the root, and as mind body spirit complexes, we have very powerful manifestation abilities. What ever block that is there, is the result of our feelings, our thoughts. That block will simply come back over and over until the root cause is dealt with. In order to deal with the root cause, I will need to preface it with two concepts concerning the divine masculine and the divine feminine. Not to look at things in terms of 3rd density as in 1 part is good, and 1 part is bad, but rather.. 1 is love. and the other is light. These are inherent forces within all of us like Yin and Yang or the many other examples I get into later.

The key to awakening the divine feminine is not suppression but allowance and acceptance, letting the feeling wash over you, and being able to forgive yourself for being angry, love yourself if you are scared, and console yourself when you are sad. Of course that is the self service side of things. Love your enemies and forgive them, and thank them. Whenever it is said to be the alpha and omega, it is usually referred to as the beginning and the end, which refers to cycles. Finding outlets to channel those feelings into positive things.
May I suggest these two articles that expand on the subject so that I can move forward.

http://sunyatasatchitananda.com/divine-masculine/

and

http://sunyatasatchitananda.com/divine-feminine/

The final integrative work of the psychic is to realize that the Masculine and Feminine, or the in and out breath, see that the two polarities are inherent beyond polarity, one is push or expansion which is the right side of our body, and then there is pull or contraction on the left side. Like the ringing of the ear left or right. More specifically the divine masculine will create the space for there to be nothing. It is then the divine feminine within each male that portrays the scene in however emotional depth that specific person will allow. I've been studying the spelling of words and Thoth can be thought. Jesus said take no thought and to go within. So lucifer was the light brighter, light without wisdom, just hard knowledge. 6th D states that the conflicts are resolved. That means the two opposing sides become two sides that work together as one. Which is the way of unity.




So I want to include a little excerpt of this other article that goes further into blending the two together:

"Masculine & Feminine

Two Halves make a Whole

In this 3rd dimension reality which is based on duality —yes/no, day/night, up/down, in/out, on/off, etc. there are two primary dynamic and creative aspects that are non-corporeal energetic, psychological, and archetypal elements:

Masculine & Feminine

Purusha & Prakriti

Yang & Yin

Yehova & Shekinah, Shiva & Shakti (personifications as deities)

As cosmological & ideological aspects this primary pair:

Form the foundation of this dualistic 3rd dimension

Serve a purpose as dynamic forces that work together to create

As the Taoist Yin-Yang symbol illustrates, both of these primary aspects work together to create and form a whole. This represents what happens “behind the scenes” of life where an unseen synergy of polar aspects come together in different capacities and contributions to form results that become manifest in material reality. This process is mysterious and unquantifiable by material standards and has long been perceived by abstract thinkers, mystics and spiritual adepts who can access and conceptualize the spiritual (non-corporeal) realm.

Each primary aspect has its unique characteristic that is independent of sex or gender and exists in both men and women as energy forces, psychological and archetypal components. A person having more or less of one of the primary aspects does not make them more “a man” or “a woman” as these are gender stereotypes and are effected by cultural mores and traditions. At their most basic level the two primary aspects work together to create life and affect circumstances with influential force or energy that colors and molds experience.

The following lists are representative of some characteristics for either aspect. Because people perceive through the lens of their human point of view the terms listed may have a personified feel to their quality and description:

Masculine

Positive force (+)

Active

Causative

Emanation

Push/Repel

Light

To “Do” (directed action to achieve)

To Think (intellectual processes)

To Know (conclusions based on discernable information)

Feminine

Negative force (-)

Passive

Receptive

Absorption

Pull/Attract

Shadow/Darkness

To “Be” (experiencing a condition or feeling)

To Feel (emotive processes)

To Intuit (conclusions based on information not readily available)

A frequent mistake is to conflate what are characteristics of the primary energetic aspects with human gender (cultural) definitions of what constitutes a “man” or “woman;” or to use these terms as synonymous with “male” or “female.” When considering topics of masculine or feminine it’s best to be clear on what is actually being discussed: biological sex, gender, archetype, or primary energy aspect and not conflate them.

The reader should know that either masculine or feminine traits listed above can be, and are, present in men or women. Women certainly “think” and men certainly “feel.” Also, these are not comprehensive lists; however further definitions of either masculine or feminine—while possible (and prevalent) tend to bear cultural layers that lend themselves to stereotyping. When going further in defining either aspect it’s best to be cognizant of cultural influences and acknowledge their “coloring” of the definition.  "

Source: http://sunyatasatchitananda.com/masculine-feminine/



With all of this now already fresh. The true integrative work and merging the dark parts of ourselves back into the light is knowing these are parts of ourselves that do not have love given to them. You must learn to love all parts of you, and then you will learn to love all of your other selves, there are many different kinds of people as there are many different parts to us as mind body spirit complexes.

Usually it goes back to facing our earliest memories that imprint these things, what was your earliest series of situations that brought or made you feel shame?
what was your earliest series of situations that brought or made you feel anger?
"............................................................................................................. sadness?"
Usually this correlates to our earliest friends, and our immediate family.


What traumas did you experience in your childhood? Can you forgive those people that first shamed you and try to love them even if that is not returned?
Usually it is these experiences that later trigger whenever someone does something similar that triggers it, then it's like reliving the same thought process over and over, so it triggers the time where you feel you have to supress an emotion.

Everything is a choice between love and fear. For example you didn't do good enough in school I can't believe your grades suck, you're a horrible son. That's a maybe bad extreme example.
You'd want to self assess that statement to understand the fundamental root of that which is, I love you as my son and I want you to have the best that you can have in the world, which is why I want you to study so hard.

It's just one example, but you take this and apply it to your own personal life situations. In forgiveness lies the stoppage of the wheel of action as Ra has stated. What you're experiencing is wanting to use the catalyst, and the catalyst keeps recurring until you get to the root of the cause of the disharmony.

When the eye be single the body be full of light. I have seen the seat of god and i shall name him peneal. All those things are in the bible speaking of what Jesus said to do which was to meditate and be of single eye in a dark room.

Please forgive me if I sound preachy. Here is another video that speaks of integrating the shadow self.

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Remove Emotional Blocks: Free Your Soul's Creative Process

Learn how to identify and remove the thoughts, emotions and energies that are blocking your creative process.

"The fundamental reality of every person is two-fold. First, you are awareness. You receive and perceive the energies of the mental dimension, emotional dimension and physical dimension. Second, you are creation. You create with the energies of your mind, emotional body and physical body. The combination of the inward flow and outward flow occurring within these 3 dimensions creates your reality. In this video teaching, you will learn about the creative process, the outward flow... and how we sometimes block our own creative process.

At the center of yourself is your soul, your spirit, your consciousness, or whichever terms you choose to use to define the essence of yourself. This deepest essences is a combination of awareness, intelligence, and creative energy. From your spiritual center, you create into the world your desires. These are the thoughts, emotions and actions that flow through you.

Often, in our lives, we do not allow the full flow of our creative self. Doubts, fears, worries and insecurities arise to block our expression. We worry about how other people will see us or think about us. We are afraid to re-invent ourselves. We doubt if we are correct in our actions and therefore hold ourselves back. We are insecure about ourselves and reduce how much we speak our mind. There are many ways we limit our creative freedom and personal power.

In this Channel Higher Self video, you will be taught about the creative process that begins at the deepest center of you – your soul, spirit or Higher Self Consciousness – and flows outwards into life. You will given examples of how the healthy creative process works. You will also be given examples of how we block this creative process because of our unhealthy emotional responses, like doubt, fear, worry and insecurity. Tools, tips and information will guide you in your process of personal growth and spiritual transformation, all channeled by the Higher Self.

The ultimate goal of this video is to help you understand who you are and you can create your perfect reality. "

[AnthroHeart]

It's easy to cry when I watch an inspiring film like Zootopia. Or some others as well. But if I'm watching it with others and I tear up, I try not to talk right after the movie because I get choked up. It's hard to share these emotions with others.

[anagogy]

I have been looking at some basic psychology of emotions and i have been made aware that we have 6 basic emotions 3 positive and 3 negative.  Love, Joy, Surprise and Anger, Fear, Sadness.

This may perhaps be oversimplifying emotions a bit. I can think of a lot more than six. What about jealousy, disgust, shame, pity, and trust? I actually prefer not to try to label them specifically and separately. I think of them more as a spectrum with infinite gradations in between.

As far as getting in touch with emotions, I think it is just a matter of practice. It is just like anything else in life. Everything is a muscle that gets stronger with use. The more you use a given catalyst, the more active it becomes in your experience. So if you want your emotional awareness to expand, simply do more frequent "gut checks". In every situation ask yourself, "How do I feel?" Do you feel tense? Do you feel anxious? Do you feel relaxed? Do you feel free? Do you feel peaceful?

Sometimes I like to just watch myself. Become the Witness. And just observe the wholeness of your conscious reality. And then just objectively notice what is being "seen" in the field of conscious experience. It can be quite illuminating when you develop the ability to look at yourself without an agenda. You really begin to get a sense of how wacky, weird, and wonderful this person that you seemingly are, is. Consciousness, as the changeless background, is the measure by which all change is calculated or measured. By moving into this witness consciousness you can more easily perceive the sensations and vibrational characteristics that these things we call 'emotions' actually represent and their corresponding chemical reflections within the body complex.