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giving your full attention to others - norral - 02-27-2013
i think it is a great challenge nowadays to give your full attention to others. there is the phone and the computer . it is easy to not give your full attention to others. i know i am certainly guilty of it. so i resolve to give my full attention to others when i am with them and let the other things go. giving attention to someone says to them u are important to me and i value the time i spend with u.
norral
seal love divine check out how the baby looks at her mom
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iczaDcixBj4
RE: giving your full attention to others - GentleReckoning - 02-27-2013
(02-27-2013, 01:47 PM)norral Wrote: i think it is a great challenge nowadays to give your full attention to others. there is the phone and the computer . it is easy to not give your full attention to others. i know i am certainly guilty of it. so i resolve to give my full attention to others when i am with them and let the other things go. giving attention to someone says to them u are important to me and i value the time i spend with u.
norral
seal love divine check out how the baby looks at her mom
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iczaDcixBj4
Another thing to try is to give other people your attention while maintaining equilibrium. So, split your attention equally. One half is stays in your body, keeping you grounded. The other half is totally focused on the other person.
RE: giving your full attention to others - reeay - 02-27-2013
There's also an awareness that there are other self around self, and that we may each affect other self. So in a sense, giving attention to others includes giving attention to our inner processes and how we affect others by our actions or whatnot.
RE: giving your full attention to others - norral - 02-27-2013
exactly . its an awareness u bring to each encounter. if u are fully present and your attention undivided u will be aware of the other self and your self and how both selves are affecting each other. which u would hope would be the purpose of dialoging. its a goal i have for myself something i am working on. i definitely dont check text messages on my cell phone but sometimes i am guilty of giving more attention to the computer than to others which is not good.
norral
RE: giving your full attention to others - Unbound - 02-27-2013
Silence speaks.
RE: giving your full attention to others - zenmaster - 02-27-2013
Did you just say something?
RE: giving your full attention to others - Unbound - 02-28-2013
Nope.
RE: giving your full attention to others - Ruth - 02-28-2013
(02-27-2013, 01:47 PM)norral Wrote: i think it is a great challenge nowadays to give your full attention to others. there is the phone and the computer . it is easy to not give your full attention to others. i know i am certainly guilty of it. so i resolve to give my full attention to others when i am with them and let the other things go. giving attention to someone says to them u are important to me and i value the time i spend with u.
norral
seal love divine check out how the baby looks at her mom
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iczaDcixBj4
I know just what you mean, norral. I have been guilty of this, too, and the fact that you posted helped bring it to my attention again. I understand what some are saying here about your "full" attention. But I think I take your point to mean to realize how discourteous it can be to divide your attention between a person in front of you and a person at the other end of a communication device. I know how much I dislike it when my step-daughter comes to visit all the way from Texas, then sits with her face glued to her phone screen still texting her friends back in Texas.
Or when my hubby finally gets home from a long day at work and I'm still texting someone or checking Facebook or something.
Thank you for the reminder dear friend.
RE: giving your full attention to others - Plenum - 03-01-2013
(02-27-2013, 01:47 PM)norral Wrote: i think it is a great challenge nowadays to give your full attention to others. there is the phone and the computer . it is easy to not give your full attention to others. i know i am certainly guilty of it. so i resolve to give my full attention to others when i am with them and let the other things go. giving attention to someone says to them u are important to me and i value the time i spend with u.
from my experience, the notion of "multitasking" as it has come to be experienced via computer screens and mobile phones is a bit of a fiction.
one does less and less of more and more.
quality inputs count so much more than quantity.
and a 'quality input' demands your full attention; not reading a sentence at a time, then flicking tabs, or listening to a few words on a podcast and shifting your attention elsewhere.
some of the greatest joys in my life are going for a walk with a friend and talking about the day; removed from electronic distractions and enjoying the natural surroundings.
simple pleasures
