I am having a hard time with my son's behavior. He is very STS. He is 17 years old and I feel like if he doesn't change his ways he is headed for distaster. He is just like his father who I have been divorced from for over 12 years. I know that he has his own journey but it hurts me to see him go through this. I try to teach him compassion, and try to guide him but it only lasts for a short time. I feel very frustrated. I wonder if there is a genetic thread to this behavior??
I literally asked him yesterday if he would ever consider being of service to other? He looked at me like I was asking him something that was completely absurd. I asked him if he could just do something for someone else without expecting something in return. He made excuses for his behavior of course.
Now I have a part in this and feel some responsibility, I have overindulged him because I felt sorry for him. His father had a drug problem and was controlling and very mean spirited, or STS oriented. So I went over and above for him and catered to him. Tried to protect him. I feel like I did more harm than good!