I feel led to say a few things to you here. It seems to me that you are unsure if your partner is on the sts path. Remember that those who are DO NOT have the green energy center activated at all. They do indeed know that and they are truly masters at manipulating you into believing they know love. They learn the way you love and mirror it back to you. It will be a whirlwind that sweeps you off your feet very quickly. Their game is control. Cluster b personality disorders are where to begin looking into those games. Some are so talented that you will really not be able to suspect it with out becoming informed first. When you think about a person quite literally without and activated love center that group is cluster b personality disorders. Not all of them though. I dont believe borderline are sts unless they have profound comorbid (shared) disorders. Certainly also the degree of skill in execution is important too and the advanced being completely heartless.
There is a doctor on YouTube named Dr.Grande who talked about the different personality ways of thinking that Everyone needs to hear. I'll put in the link to a good one. It is spot on and truly fascinating the sutlle differences that can be seen in them all. Like for example ... let's say you are at work and you have made a big mistake and are hoping you dont get in trouble for it but others know about it.. psychopaths around you could care less as long as they are not hurt by ur mistake Narcissists want to know what's in it for them to keep your mistake quiet and will likely exploit it later to make themselves look better by showing ur incompetence. Those who are ocd, have already told the boss because you should have followed the rules so next time you do follow them. These slight differences in the way they think is incredibly interesting. Please note that OCD is not cluster b and used to highlight differences only.
This issue is not only a serious issue in your life for your own balance but also you may be interfering in her path graduation or non graduation, not to mention your own. Furthermore ...if you are within a relationship with a true sts , you could be and are in danger and that is utter truth. Negativity is a gravity well sucking you in. Drugs now becoming your goto coping mechanism...understandably. lol. No judgement coming from me. I get it.
Imagine what a person holding no love in heart can do to a child while raising it. We are here to help and perhaps this woman by hAving a baby may become the grinch and cindy loohoo. It's not our place to judge people or their path. I get that. You love her and we do too. We love you too. In a relationship as integral as to be a lover or child ...we must know enough to protect ourselves and loving them and ourselves demands it. When you tell someone they are hurting you... if they are not actively trying to not hurt you like that again ... they dont either love you or care about you enough to help you. Does that sound like a relationship you want in your inner circle???
Educate yourself in cluster b personas. Are you feeling love? Does she show others love? Empathy? Compassion? Is the sex giving? Deep?the answers will help too. I miss mine too... it was not real though. He is pinnochio not yet a real boy. I loved him though. This is hard. Wisdom and balance will remain but absolutely only through intense fire. OUCH
There is a doctor on YouTube named Dr.Grande who talked about the different personality ways of thinking that Everyone needs to hear. I'll put in the link to a good one. It is spot on and truly fascinating the sutlle differences that can be seen in them all. Like for example ... let's say you are at work and you have made a big mistake and are hoping you dont get in trouble for it but others know about it.. psychopaths around you could care less as long as they are not hurt by ur mistake Narcissists want to know what's in it for them to keep your mistake quiet and will likely exploit it later to make themselves look better by showing ur incompetence. Those who are ocd, have already told the boss because you should have followed the rules so next time you do follow them. These slight differences in the way they think is incredibly interesting. Please note that OCD is not cluster b and used to highlight differences only.
This issue is not only a serious issue in your life for your own balance but also you may be interfering in her path graduation or non graduation, not to mention your own. Furthermore ...if you are within a relationship with a true sts , you could be and are in danger and that is utter truth. Negativity is a gravity well sucking you in. Drugs now becoming your goto coping mechanism...understandably. lol. No judgement coming from me. I get it.
Imagine what a person holding no love in heart can do to a child while raising it. We are here to help and perhaps this woman by hAving a baby may become the grinch and cindy loohoo. It's not our place to judge people or their path. I get that. You love her and we do too. We love you too. In a relationship as integral as to be a lover or child ...we must know enough to protect ourselves and loving them and ourselves demands it. When you tell someone they are hurting you... if they are not actively trying to not hurt you like that again ... they dont either love you or care about you enough to help you. Does that sound like a relationship you want in your inner circle???
Educate yourself in cluster b personas. Are you feeling love? Does she show others love? Empathy? Compassion? Is the sex giving? Deep?the answers will help too. I miss mine too... it was not real though. He is pinnochio not yet a real boy. I loved him though. This is hard. Wisdom and balance will remain but absolutely only through intense fire. OUCH