04-02-2017, 08:09 AM
(This post was last modified: 04-02-2017, 08:39 AM by Agua del Cielo.)
Dear fellow seekers,
i made an observation and would like your feedback on it!
The observation is in regards to people asking for advice, mostly in how to deal with difficult situations.
In many of these threads, to me it seemed that people actually never follow any advice
Many times there are helpful approaches, methods and techniques shared, but ( i can only assume from what people post in response) there was rarely or never a situation where someone said "hey, i tried this method or technique and it did/ did not work".
From the few occasions in the chat this impression got much stronger, it seemed nobody is really listening but very eager to speak/write.
So my first assumption is, that it just became more obvious in the chat, but is basically the same in the forum.
My second assumption is, that its basically more about sharing one's story and having someone that listens, rather than really wanting some advice or approach or method to try out.
I guess you know what i mean.
So, i'd like to have your opinions on this.
If my assumption is right, it would then be much more effective and helpful to actively really listen and offer understanding and compassion than suggesting any kind of method or the likes!
I hope its possible to click multiple options (its my first poll), if not, please click the option you feel is most suitable in regards to this threads question!
Thanks for your feedback everybody
edit:
btw, the poll is anonymous, please reply as honestly as possible
i made an observation and would like your feedback on it!
The observation is in regards to people asking for advice, mostly in how to deal with difficult situations.
In many of these threads, to me it seemed that people actually never follow any advice
Many times there are helpful approaches, methods and techniques shared, but ( i can only assume from what people post in response) there was rarely or never a situation where someone said "hey, i tried this method or technique and it did/ did not work".
From the few occasions in the chat this impression got much stronger, it seemed nobody is really listening but very eager to speak/write.
So my first assumption is, that it just became more obvious in the chat, but is basically the same in the forum.
My second assumption is, that its basically more about sharing one's story and having someone that listens, rather than really wanting some advice or approach or method to try out.
I guess you know what i mean.
So, i'd like to have your opinions on this.
If my assumption is right, it would then be much more effective and helpful to actively really listen and offer understanding and compassion than suggesting any kind of method or the likes!
I hope its possible to click multiple options (its my first poll), if not, please click the option you feel is most suitable in regards to this threads question!
Thanks for your feedback everybody
edit:
btw, the poll is anonymous, please reply as honestly as possible