01-06-2016, 03:07 AM
Images are of the Mind and identity is grasped through images. Funny that you mention long hair, liking games, etc as being feminine.
If you ask me, you perhaps have a very imbalanced view of what 'masculine' and 'feminine' is. It seems you kind of have them lumped in to two extremes, one of emotion/mental and one of physical. This doesn't make the slightest bit of sense to me outside of the 'standardized' images that have been projected upon men and women.
In otherwords, I don't think a gentle or 'soft' man is necessarily feminine because I don't view compassion and feelings as being exclusively female attributes. Just like I don't think a girl who's rugged and out-going to be 'masculine' because I don't view those traits as exclusively male.
What I think it is is that labels are seen as attributed to identity are desire because they stabilize one's sense of self. When you can identify yourself with a word or group of people you are trying to create context for your inner experiences. You just naturally will try to build a context out of the 'ingredients' you have available which are all the images and examples of behaviours and ways of being you have seen in your life.
Thus, you have a triangle hole but only a circle and a square, yet somehow this circle and square need to find a way to fit in to the triangle so rather than finding the triangle you cut a bit off the circle and a bit off the square and try to mash them together in to one shape so they fit in the hole you are trying to fit in to.
Thus, it appears to me that the need for acceptance is grounded in the context one has for one's identity. When it appears that one has no 'reason' for their identity one will naturally attempt to construct one out of whatever thoughts are available, regardless of the origins.
So, in the end, I ask, what kind of person do you want to be and is it important that you are 'categorized' correctly by others?
If you ask me, you perhaps have a very imbalanced view of what 'masculine' and 'feminine' is. It seems you kind of have them lumped in to two extremes, one of emotion/mental and one of physical. This doesn't make the slightest bit of sense to me outside of the 'standardized' images that have been projected upon men and women.
In otherwords, I don't think a gentle or 'soft' man is necessarily feminine because I don't view compassion and feelings as being exclusively female attributes. Just like I don't think a girl who's rugged and out-going to be 'masculine' because I don't view those traits as exclusively male.
What I think it is is that labels are seen as attributed to identity are desire because they stabilize one's sense of self. When you can identify yourself with a word or group of people you are trying to create context for your inner experiences. You just naturally will try to build a context out of the 'ingredients' you have available which are all the images and examples of behaviours and ways of being you have seen in your life.
Thus, you have a triangle hole but only a circle and a square, yet somehow this circle and square need to find a way to fit in to the triangle so rather than finding the triangle you cut a bit off the circle and a bit off the square and try to mash them together in to one shape so they fit in the hole you are trying to fit in to.
Thus, it appears to me that the need for acceptance is grounded in the context one has for one's identity. When it appears that one has no 'reason' for their identity one will naturally attempt to construct one out of whatever thoughts are available, regardless of the origins.
So, in the end, I ask, what kind of person do you want to be and is it important that you are 'categorized' correctly by others?