peace and balance

[Vince]

what has been a challenge for me is just surrounding myself with balanced people. i've been surrounded often by imbalanced people (and i don't exempt myself from having imbalances either), so i tend to limit my contacts with people if their imbalances vastly affect my own personal balance. life is sometimes already a tightrope, so balance is very important to me. i just want to be healthy, pay my mortgage and have a little bit of peace in my life.

my mother had made contact with me about a dozen times after her death (after passing away about three years ago), but she and i didn't have the same conflict as my father and i have had. my father is still living, of course. perhaps one of my ultimate goals for myself in this life is balance.

what are your personal experiences with peace and balance? can you relate? are you peaceful? are you balanced? are these things difficult for you at times? or easy for you? does the Law of One have an impact in your practical everyday life in this regard?

[fairyfarmgirl]

I use a technique to balance myself. It takes about 32 days to become encoded and part of your matrix. Holding onto that which no longer serves us is often a block to peace and balance. This causes us to create from memory rather than divine inspiration. We are magnificent creators. We create without even trying. We are born creating. The disconnect in this is we often create unconsciously. Where your thoughts and feeling go so goes your outer experience.

I recommend this technique very highly! --- fairyfarmgirl

Surrender, turn it over to God's Grace, and LET GO.

Here is a very effective and simple process of releasing, in three simple steps:

1. Activate the three Grace points in your hand. This is done by touching the center of your left palm, the midpoint between your forefinger and thumb , and the side of your hand (your fingers should form a line and feel comfortable in thier postion . Use three fingers, keep them in place and state: "I activate my Grace Points".

2. State: "I release_______________ (all that no longer serves me, all criticisms and judgments, all conflicting beliefs which interfere with my abundance, all emotional pain etc) into God's Grace" Wait and allow. This may take a few minutes, trust your visualizations and ask to be notified when it is complete(this will be a signal that is unmistakable to you I generally hear "it is done").

3. Then, state: "I Grace in ______________ (God's love, light, healing, self-acceptance, self-confidence, courage, understanding. compassionate wisdom, forgiveness, Joy, and Peace etc) to replace all that I have cleared, and so it is."

You can do this anytime, anywhere. It is recommended that you do so at least daily.

The next thing which is extremely important in stopping the karmic wheel from turning is to Call upon the Law of Forgiveness.

State from your heart: "I forgive anyone and anything that has hurt me, knowingly or unknowingly. I forgive myself for hurting anything or anyone (including myself), knowingly or unknowingly.

It is recommended that you perform this forgiveness three to four times each day, including just before sleep, for at least 32 consecutive days.

And, Call as follows: "Mighty I AM Presence" I call forth my supply with ease and grace now! (Do not say how this is to come to you.) Be open and have complete FAITH that it is on its way to you NOW.

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Good Greetings All:

This is a link to a guided meditation that I did when I went to Global Eden Event last week. It is teaches self-forgiveness to self and also assists you in halting self-destructive thoughts and emotions. We create with our thoughts and emotions. We create everything we experience. This is difficult and challenging to accept because we have forgotten that we are magnificient creators. The time to remember this is now. The guided meditation was created by Anna Casper. Breathing Magic Into Forgiveness
© 2008 Anna Casper Anna headshot
This guided visualization CD guides you to the keys that unlock your personal freedom through the power of self-forgiveness.
The tracks are...
1 Intro 2 Breathing the Magic of Color 3 Magic Carpet Ride Into Forgiveness

Recommended if you like ...
Barry Goldstein

Achieve balance and personal freedom through the power of self-forgiveness!

Feel with your heart as the magic of forgiveness transforms your life experience from one of inner conflict to one of inner harmony, balance, and peace!

Using sacred ambient music and tuning forks, we cleanse, clarify, and purify your energy system into a state of white light by Breathing the Magic of Color through the chakra system.

Now that you've created the space for blissful magic to occur in your life experience, relax and revitalize as you take the Magic Carpet Ride into Forgiveness to a place deep within your heart. Discover freedom, focus, creative flow, and a deeper connection with your inner being.

Anna Casper is a visionary, artist, and Reiki healer. "What healing comes down to is the relationship one has with one's self. I am committed to my personal mastery. Peace in the world will happen as we stop reacting to our conscious and subconscious woundedness; when we find inner peace. As I shift and become more conscious of truth, love, and forgiveness in all situations, the world around me shifts." Transform inner conflict to inner peace! The guided visualizations in "Breathing Magic Into Forgiveness" assist you to achieve balance and personal freedom through the power of self-forgiveness.

Here are the links: amcasper@tds.net http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cGs8vtjDxxY

fairyfarmgirl

[Sirius]

I have had a couple of 'thoughts' (thoughts being a weak term for it) about this Surrender. I can truely appreceate that this is most beneficial, but there is a lot to be done before one can just surrender. I still hold onto many things in my life, of which surrender is not an option yet.

I think ut is what we all must head to at some point, but certain work must be done before we can truely give our lives to the creator. In my view you could do this with a singular deep breath, but only after the pre-work has been finished, Letting go af grievances and values of life.

[Vince]

I use a technique to balance myself. It takes about 32 days to become encoded and part of your matrix. Holding onto that which no longer serves us is often a block to peace and balance. This causes us to create from memory rather than divine inspiration. We are magnificent creators. We create without even trying. We are born creating. The disconnect in this is we often create unconsciously. Where your thoughts and feeling go so goes your outer experience.

i think sometimes that it may take a good month of removing certain negative influences from life to actually feel the effects of various positive disciplines. balance is so important in life.

1. Activate the three Grace points in your hand. This is done by touching the center of your left palm, the midpoint between your forefinger and thumb , and the side of your hand (your fingers should form a line and feel comfortable in thier postion . Use three fingers, keep them in place and state: "I activate my Grace Points".

what are grace points and how are they related to the hand?

2. State: "I release_______________ (all that no longer serves me, all criticisms and judgments, all conflicting beliefs which interfere with my abundance, all emotional pain etc) into God's Grace" Wait and allow. This may take a few minutes, trust your visualizations and ask to be notified when it is complete(this will be a signal that is unmistakable to you I generally hear "it is done").

i'll have to be open to a deep meditative state to hear this voice.

3. Then, state: "I Grace in ______________ (God's love, light, healing, self-acceptance, self-confidence, courage, understanding. compassionate wisdom, forgiveness, Joy, and Peace etc) to replace all that I have cleared, and so it is."

okay, i will try this, thanks.

State from your heart: "I forgive anyone and anything that has hurt me, knowingly or unknowingly. I forgive myself for hurting anything or anyone (including myself), knowingly or unknowingly.

It is recommended that you perform this forgiveness three to four times each day, including just before sleep, for at least 32 consecutive days.

this will involve dealing with a conflict that i had with my brother when my mother passed away.

Using sacred ambient music and tuning forks, we cleanse, clarify, and purify your energy system into a state of white light by Breathing the Magic of Color through the chakra system.

i would like to create a nice home environment with beautiful meditative lights, sounds and smells.

Peace in the world will happen as we stop reacting to our conscious and subconscious woundedness; when we find inner peace. As I shift and become more conscious of truth, love, and forgiveness in all situations, the world around me shifts."

i'm trying to remove my woundedness from me by not rehearsing it too much in my psyche. best to focus on higher things to purge myself.

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I have had a couple of 'thoughts' (thoughts being a weak term for it) about this Surrender. I can truely appreceate that this is most beneficial, but there is a lot to be done before one can just surrender. I still hold onto many things in my life, of which surrender is not an option yet.

i find that it's a gradual process for me. i try to surrender a little bit at a time, and then the trick is just to stick with each little choice for me.

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A simple question that most don't ask when being advised to try something they may not have already is this;

What happens, and how am I going feel, when it doesn't work..?

a lot might have to do with expectations for me. have you been basically dissatisfied with various healing methods?

[Vince]

My question is because I've seen all too many people trying one 'spiritual method' after another, moving from one thing to the next when each fails to work for them. If, in doing that, you find what works for you then wonderful!

If you feel something is worth investing your time and hope in then go for it, but all I'm suggesting is that you (or any of us) ask the simple question first; What happens, and how am I going feel, when it doesn't work..?

i find that it takes a balance of about a dozen different methods to work for me overall. and i have to keep disciplined with each of them to produce an overall gradual effect. if i only use one method in isolation, then it may not be effective enough, but several methods seem to work pretty well for me if practiced together regularly in a wholistic fashion. and it may take about a month's worth of regular practice of any one specific discipline to feel any noticable positive effects from it. the effects can often be very subtle.

[pluralone]

What happens, and how am I going feel, when it doesn't work..?

I know a lot of folks who would say that asking such a question actually creates the situation - one allows that it won't work and so it doesn't. Myself, I think there's more to it than that. But for me the better question is "What happens, and how am I going to feel, when it's done?" If I keep the answer to that question in mind, I find it helps.

Where I get stuck is bridging the gap between knowing what needs to be done and actually doing it. "Just do it" is a simple answer to that, but "simple" does not necessarily mean "easy", and for me the simple answer is often the hardest. In response to certain situations in my childhood, I developed the ability to completely disconnect from my self and my surroundings. While that served a good purpose when I was a kid, over time it's enabled me to develop some really self-destructive habits. I need to replace what was once a valid coping tool with one that is more healthy and in balance with who I am and what my goals are now. "Just do" that?

Right. "Just" replace a life-long point of perception and method of function. Sure. And tomorrow I'll "just" build a new city to live in.

Hm. Can ya tell I've been struggling with this lately? Acceptance, for me, has been a two-edged sword: On the one hand, I've replaced self-hatred with self-love (for the most part), but on the other hand, acceptance has enabled me to numb myself out toward - to disconnect emotionally from - the lingering behaviors that began back when I hated me. Seems the simple answer would be to just stop those behaviors. *deep sigh*

When "just do it" isn't an option, how do I take these steps? Can "just do it" be divided down into smaller, more "do"-able steps?
plur

[βαθμιαίος]

Lots of good advice. On the issue of whether to pursue a specific practice or just to pay attention, I'd like to point out this quote from Ra to Jim, which suggests that some people, like Jim, will gravitate towards more regularized discipline while others, like Don and Carla, don't feel the need for such repetition:

It is to be noted that this entity requires some discipline in the meditation which the others of the group do not find necessary in the same manner. Therefore, the entity may continue with its forms of meditation knowing that each in the group supports it entirely although the instinct to share in the discipline is not always present. Each entity has its ways of viewing and learning from the illusion, and each processes catalyst using unique circuitry. Thus all need not be the same to be equal in will and faith.

[pluralone]

I understand what you're saying, Taha, but I'm left with the thought that it may not have been a good idea for me to share so much of what I'm struggling with. I can't even begin to convey how un-heard I feel right now. "Just be in the moment" is simply another version of "just do it". I do appreciate your kind words - and I really mean that - but I'm going to back off from trying to participate on a personal level in a discussion on this topic.

Please don't read my frustration as being aimed toward you; it really isn't.
plur

[Vince]

i find personally that my life disciplines/behaviors are fine. for me to facilitate change in my life, i've instead had to cease/minimize contact with people who negatively influence me. when i simply get away from certain people (particularly relatives who are dedicated to perceiving me in a bad light), life just gets easier for me. i have all the faith that i need in life, just so long as i get away from the faithlessness of others. maybe a bit selfish, but it works for me to eliminate outside detractors. my life isn't so much about adding more things, but about eliminating things.

[βαθμιαίος]

I can't even begin to convey how un-heard I feel right now.

Do you mean on this forum or in your life in general? If you mean on this forum, may I suggest that you create a new thread with what you posted in this one? I think you'll get more responses that way. I, for one, kind of overlooked your personal information on this thread because I was thinking about Vince and about the regular practice/being in the moment question.

[pluralone]

Thank you all. I need to bow out of this thread, and I apologize for taking it off topic.

Not a bit in anger, *singing*

Is that all there is?
Is that all there is?
If that's all there is, my friend,
Then let's keep dancing...
plur

[PandaB]

hi Vince,
I had mostly all imbalanced people in my life and I was very depressed. I hoped to find someday something to help me out and find peace too. I knew I had to change inward to make changes outward of my surroundings. I came across a spiritual teacher woman named Supreme Master Ching Hai and her teachings of love and compassion and her meditations to learn. i soon learned the Quan Yin Method, this meditation really helped me to balance myself and find inner peace and wisdom and divine love,

then my surroundings changed for the better and I also became stronger to cope with any negative people or situations that still arise.

It has been 15 years now and I am happy I stuck with this meditation all along and I am continuing to grow in compassion and love and wisdom.

This may be a meditation that you may like. the Master also teaches the Convient Method Meditation. this is good too, 30 minutes a day.

you can start by watching her web tv show called Supreme Master TV

or check out her web page

Gods Direct Contact.org
I hope you will find some helpful teaching from these sites.
peace and love, pandaB

[Vince]

There's all too much talk these days of 'new age' concepts like; If it's in your life it's for a reason. You should learn to accept and love that which comes to you/hurts you. Everything is a reflection of what's inside you.

i try not to find too much metaphysical value in taking out the garbage. i just try to take it out before it begins to smell and then forget about it.

Funny that few say, "Perhaps your lesson is about regaining your own power and sense of joy, so if you want to tell people to p**s off then go for it!"

i'm polite to people nine times out of ten, but sometimes people don't respond to politeness the first time around despite my repeated efforts. then i'm off to other healthier relationships instead. i either leave the old relationship quietly, or loudly if they don't allow me to move on quietly.

What you're saying Vince, it seems to me, is that you're actually ok. You feel balanced and happy without the intrusive and hurtful things others do to you, and you find that breaking unhelpful connections restores you to peace. Yes? (Do tell me if I'm wrong in thinking that from reading your posts).

yes, you're absolutely correct.

What they are is me letting go of the constant round of you-me, me-you, you-other, me-other, you-me, etc., etc.

i've attended a weekly counseling group for the last ten years to hash out health and family concerns that had affected me from childhood. our counseling group usually runs about five to ten people.

each week, many people in the group tell tragic stories which involve relational intertwinement with others. some are routinely emotionally distraught due to the psychic toxins of others versus direct health issues of their own, but they can't seem to make such differentiations.

if you ask them: "how are you?", they will answer: "my sister lost her job" or "my father yelled at my mother" or "my brother is ill". they can't tell themselves apart from other people. and they can't differentiate the psychic poisons of others from their own.

See, now I'm wondering... Are you far more connected to your true nature than you've let on, and are just posting here to make others think..?

i'm trying to find out where others are, to see if we are in the same place. do others experience a sense of oneness despite the presence of toxic relationships, or do they only experience oneness after ceasing toxic relationships? i personally don't experience a sense of oneness in the presence of toxic relationships.

intellectually, i believe that we are all one on an energy level, but i personally don't experience a sense of oneness relationally with people too much, except a select few who have an understanding of the oneness concept. i 'think' from a oneness perspective, but i don't necessarily 'feel' oneness with many people in a daily practical sense. instead, i feel disconnected from most people, like people live in very different worlds. i'm wondering if other forum members experience the same as me or different.

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hi Vince,
I had mostly all imbalanced people in my life and I was very depressed. I hoped to find someday something to help me out and find peace too. I knew I had to change inward to make changes outward of my surroundings. I came across a spiritual teacher woman named Supreme Master Ching Hai and her teachings of love and compassion and her meditations to learn. i soon learned the Quan Yin Method, this meditation really helped me to balance myself and find inner peace and wisdom and divine love,

then my surroundings changed for the better and I also became stronger to cope with any negative people or situations that still arise.

It has been 15 years now and I am happy I stuck with this meditation all along and I am continuing to grow in compassion and love and wisdom.

This may be a meditation that you may like. the Master also teaches the Convient Method Meditation. this is good too, 30 minutes a day.

you can start by watching her web tv show called Supreme Master TV

or check out her web page

Gods Direct Contact.org
I hope you will find some helpful teaching from these sites.
peace and love, pandaB

thanks, i'll check it out. i'm recently investigating kriya yoga involving the breath, and my roommate also teaches different forms of meditation. i find that my light/sound machine benefits me too.

[Vince]

That made me laugh, and also remember that there's great wisdom in simplicity. Many thanks Vince.