School

[Ovindu]

Hi all,
I have just been told by my teachers that I have to do about 10 - 15 hours of revision each weak, on top of about 5 hours of homework. I feel like school is a major cause of stress and that the vibration at my school is very low, I try to spread spiritual material within my school - yet most people get the impression that spirituality is a lost cause. If I have to do 15 to 20 hours of work everyday, then that is about 2.5 hours each day - and not to mention all the classes I have to attend as well. Honestly, what is the point in school - because in school we use letters and symbols to judge each other, yet human beings are so much more than just letters and symbols. It is impossible to say that he is an A* student, or she's an A student because we are so much more than just labels - why don't people understand this?

Sorry for being so negative - In all honesty, I do love you if you read this - I send you tons of love. I need to be healed and I am attempting to heal myself, on the emotional level. Have you got any tips?

Thank you

[flofrog]

Greetings Ovindu

Is there any teacher you like, or who even at times inspires you ? Is there anything in the studies you have learnt that you are happy to have discovered ? Do you have one or two friends whose story you like, for whom you feel compassion ? Any teacher that you feel, privately, some compassion for ? Any subject matter you are studying that you sort of like or even like a lot ?

It’s many questions I know, but those answers are important

back at you

[sillypumpkins]

Hi ovindu!

I need to be healed and I am attempting to heal myself, on the emotional level. Have you got any tips?

If you're looking to cultivate some emotional healing, I would suggest daily meditation if you are not doing so already.

Also, I can relate to the frustrations with school. It's a tough system for many of us to work in. Growing up, I always had a hard time in school and my parent's reactions (and most of the adults around me) was one of "you just need to try harder" or "why are you so lazy?" It's rough, especially when you're younger.

I'm only 22 and have returned to school twice for a semester here and there, in the last few years. Yep, still couldn't bring myself to do it really. The funny thing is that right now, I am taking an astrology class that I am super psyched on, and it's very easy for me to get into the zone with it, do the homework, do the readings, go to class. There are such fundamental issues with our (speaking from the american perspective) education system and it is saddening to me that so many kids go to school and think that they aren't "good enough" due to not being able to jive with such a bogus system.

Woo.... yep. A bit of an emotionally charged topic for me.

I like flo's questions

[Black Dragon]

What you should do from here is totally up to you and there's a lot of factors involved, but you do need to make a choice and stick with your guns. Since I was trapped in the public school system and didn't even know I learned and processed info differently to other until 17. If I had the opportunity to look for an alternative schooling or education method that works with my learning style, strengths, and goals specifically and I could go back, I'd take that path instead. If I could go back and still had to be trapped in school, I already mentioned how I'd spend the time on your other thread.

The big question is what do you want to do when you get out? You don't have to know exactly, but some idea would help. I don't think you will be happy going to a regular type of university and getting a life-consuming and high-stress education to go into a competitive high-stress life-draining career. If this is the path you are already on due to outside pressure, I suggest you avert from it immediately and formulate a different plan of attack for life.

There are alternative schools and education programs. There's Montessori schools, that are more self-directed and bottom up in their education approach-the teacher just serves as a guide/advisor/critique and YOU basically formulate your own curriculum, pursue your own work, and grade yourself. There's trade schools if you want to pursue a specific trade, which are a bit snobbishly looked down upon in the US, but people trained in trade schools can be quite successful and are for the most part in Europe.

If you want to be your own boss and open your own business-if you want to be an author and write and publish, if you want to be an artist/artisan and sell you wares, if you just want to lowball crystals(or some other useful or collectible ware) on eBay and turn a profit on your Etsy store, whatever you want to do you should start pursuing it now.

If you've got so much work you can barely think and have no time, you need to prioritize. What could be useful towards your life goals and what is just arbitrary crap? Do not let teachers, school councilors or personnel, or parents tell you what you have to pay attention to, or what you have to do to be successful in life. Don't fall for the fear-baiting and guilt-tripping about not doing all the work you don't feel is important and wasting your life away. They will try to tell you you won't amount to anything unless you play the game by their rules-but they all did, and how many of them are truly happy and successful really?

You have to start being your own authority, buddy. Every miserable idiot "adult" product of the societal system(aDOLT) Is going to try to be that authority for you, and one of the only things that will save you is self-discipline(something I could have used a lot more of as a child and still a work in progress). The more you have, the less others are able to try to impose their own "discipline". Then, if you follow your own life path with self-discipline, maybe you'll become a healthy mature adult(an uncommon thing indeed), rather than just another burnt out, cynical aDOLT.

An additional suggestion: stay on the lookout for a mentor or councilor that is spiritual, laid back, and independently successful in life without "selling out" or "stressing out". Finding such a person if there is not somebody like this already in your life would potentially be very helpful.

One more note I should add; please don't let all this confusion and societal bullshit make you become cynical yourself. Send those "aDOLTS" love, show them a good example of a better way to success and less stress. Do that, but don't let them tell you what to do-just do what you know is right best for you.

[Dtris]

I don 't know what nation you are in or what you mean by revision. But School is very rarely about actually learning anything useful. The system is broken. Despite that, unless you can test out of school, take the GeD and graduate early, or some other similar method, it is something that must be done.

A few things that may help. While in class and during the day you can find time to do the homework, so you have less you have to actually do at home. Try to to relate whatever you are learning with something you find enjoyable, if possible. Try to keep in mind that most teachers genuinely care about their students and think they are helping. School can be a good place to try new things and relate to many different types of people. Lastly, depending on what you want to do latter in life, having a good school record may be necessary. At least try to find the general direction you want to go in. When you have goals and a purpose it is easier to get thru things that are necessary.

[Black Dragon]

Yeah, most teachers are decent people(though like any segment of society there's some bad ones) working in the confines of a crumby system. Some manage better than others. When you have one of those really good teachers and it's a subject you have at least some passing interest in, it's probably a good idea to make the most of it and learn all you can. And yeah, getting some of your home work done at school(at the expense of relaxation/socialization during break times) can help free up more free time later in the day, but it's still the mental load of doing repetitive and arbitrary tasks for so many hours of time every day(whether you do them at school or home) that's also part of the problem.

Like I said, you might want to consider what path you want to take and focus your best efforts there, with a bare minimum of effort on stuff you feel will be of no use to you. You won't be able to please everybody, so you should do what will set you up for what you want in life to be successful and happy and take everything else with a grain of salt. You need to have self-discipline to focus on your goals, but not waste your time martyring yourself to please some authority figure or system. Sometimes that's actually part of having discipline, to set boundaries and say no to some of society and other people's demands, even if it means disappointing them(which is really their problem, and not yours).

[KaliSouth]

This sounds like a really tough situation.

What works for me is sitting in a meditative state and asking my spirit guides for assistance. The material world is difficult, but while we are here we have to learn to live in it, and this is where the spirit world can help lift our mood and inspire us.

[Dtris]

Yeah, most teachers are decent people(though like any segment of society there's some bad ones) working in the confines of a crumby system. Some manage better than others. When you have one of those really good teachers and it's a subject you have at least some passing interest in, it's probably a good idea to make the most of it and learn all you can. And yeah, getting some of your home work done at school(at the expense of relaxation/socialization during break times) can help free up more free time later in the day, but it's still the mental load of doing repetitive and arbitrary tasks for so many hours of time every day(whether you do them at school or home) that's also part of the problem.

I am sure everyone who has been thru school has had some bad teachers. Sometimes because they didn't care, and sometimes from just incompetence. I personally hated the repetitive homework and nearly failed some classes because I refused to do it. Once I learned how to do something I wasn't about to keep doing the same thing over and over for no reason. I was usually able to figure out exactly how much I needed to do to get the grade I wanted, and do the bare minimum.

While schools generally don't like to promote it there is technically nothing stopping any student that wants to from testing out of classes or taking the GeD. Once I got to college I found that I actually learn better on my own for the most part.

One thing I never did that might have helped, is if you are behind or ahead, and the content is too difficult or too easy and boring, bring it up to the teacher. Schools can sometimes be surprisingly receptive to independent study or even moving up in classes if you demonstrate you can do it. I think part of the issue is they try to time gate school instead of content gate it. If a student can get thru the minimal requirement, they should be able to be done. I don't know if it is still the same but some home schooling systems used to be where the student could go their own pace.

[Nau7ik]

I started going back to school as well this semester was a bit stressed with all of the stuff the teachers assign. It’s added difficulty because it’s online and not in a classroom. We basically have to teach ourselves with what they have posted. It’s not an ideal learning environment is causing unnecessary stress and difficulty for many people. You are not alone. I have gotten angry because of how much one teacher assigned in a week.

I suggest organizing your work for the week. You will do certain things Mon-Friday. For example, Monday I’ll work on English. Tuesday, I’ll start Ancient Religions and Psychology. Wednesday I’ll continue doing work for any of my classes. I take quizzes and exams on Sunday (to give myself the most time to study). It’s been working out for me.

It breaks down the mountain of homework you have into manageable portions so that you’re not feeling overwhelmed and have a sense that you’re making progress and getting things done.

I have to finish writing two research papers. I’m about half way done with both of them.

I wish you well~

[JoshuaPalvin]

School is also about communication with friends, teachers, and work experience in a team. Everyone knows that you can learn to read and count there, but you can also count using DividedBy. This is the formation of a person's character, the first life lessons. Thus, the school is a launching pad for independent personal development, because it gives the necessary knowledge, teaches responsibility, and discipline gives the opportunity to acquire communication skills, develop creative abilities, and helps to adapt socially to modern society.

[jafar]

I feel like school is a major cause of stress and that the vibration at my school is very low

Then why not try to move to another school?

Btw I give the same advice to one who think that their workplace/office is a major cause of stress.