Blockage and change

[Cobrien]

Hello everyone, I would like to start a discussion on how you can release blockage and change. I believe that you create your reality, utterly. Yes we have agreed to limit ourselves, but I do not see that as a problem. Each change no matter how small is a shift to a completely different parallel reality.

So why do people by their habits and beliefs repeat the past? First let me define the ideal state as being without blockage which has no exact picture for all entities, each one unique. I believe that when you decide to change your thinking or change your reality there are remnants of the former reality still at play. This is how I understand blockage on one level.

Another element to 'Blockage and Change' is the tendency for people to look to the reality to change first. We radiate, abundantly, the energy to forms our reality. What I am saying is that we must initiate the change we wish to see.

Looking forward to this discussion!

-cobrien  

[Nicholas]

Wonderful topic Cobrien!

Before I interact in a more appropriate manner (that is dedicating a good amount of time in which to add value to this discussion), I first would like to affirm with your position. I cannot disagree with anything from your OP at all. 

I can identify with the experience of being without blockage (which I would interchange with being 'without fear or judgement'), but the inner resistance to the flow of change has crept back in since then. That is probably the single most reason why I don't ask for advice and support on this forum, relating to personal blockages and personal tranformation, because I am acutely aware of the answers. 

So putting my self admissions to one side, I tend to talk about my personal experiences a lot, and what I have distilled from them. This is in the hope that some value may be extracted from them. That said, on occasion I have noticed that it is more about me seeking some attention (a blockage re-presenting itself to me). And I am not alone here!

Meanwhile though Cobrien, thank you for initiating this thread because I find it challenging to ask for help. I shall return for sure!

[Plenum]

Hello everyone, I would like to start a discussion on how you can release blockage and change.

Hi Cobrien.  Excellent topic!

I believe that you create your reality, utterly.

Yes, agreed.  Although, perhaps, I would phrase it a different way.  I would rather say that one's 'reality' is the experience that is a perfect feedback for our axiom system.  Our axioms are our core assumptions/beliefs.

Yes we have agreed to limit ourselves, but I do not see that as a problem.

The limitations are more to do with the experiential framework.  Here we are in 3d bodies in a 3rd density structure.  There are indeed 'laws' which govern how things operate here, but there is tremendous scope within those laws.

Each change no matter how small is a shift to a completely different parallel reality.

yep, agreed.  We can shift 'vibrations' with how our consciousness is tuned.  We vibrate on different subdensities of 3d given how integrated or encompassing our thought structures are.

So why do people by their habits and beliefs repeat the past?

This is feedback for the Self for learning.

First let me define the ideal state as being without blockage which has no exact picture for all entities, each one unique.

The truly balanced entity is a rare thing.  Probably so rare, that it's not even worth trying to estimate 'percentages' of the population.  I would rather work with the assumption that we are all here to learn, and that so-called blockages are rather experiential opportunities, rather than mistakes or things to be absolved before their due time.

I believe that when you decide to change your thinking or change your reality there are remnants of the former reality still at play. This is how I understand blockage on one level.

Except that changing one's thinking is not that easy!  Well, it is, in one sense, in the fact that thoughts are malleable, and in terms of 'change' it seems to be easier to change a thought than it is to push a car, physically.

And yet, people get stuck in depressive OCD patterns for years.  People self-medicate for years.  People have arthritis for years.  Why is that, if to change one's vibration only requires a 'change in thought'?

The key is, you have to know what to change, and also how to change it.

Plenty of people are enamored of the Abraham Hicks message.  And also the Secret's message.  That is because there is a deep metaphysical/spiritual truth in the core message.  You do create your own reality.  Absolute FACT.  And yet, the technique is what is absent.

The Technique is what separates an adept from a neophyte.  A Master from a Student.  A Buddha from a chained-man.

Another element to 'Blockage and Change' is the tendency for people to look to the reality to change first. We radiate, abundantly, the energy to forms our reality. What I am saying is that we must initiate the change we wish to see.

Change one's axioms, and one's reality will instantly shift.  I've seen it enough times in my own experience.  To go from a depressed, involuted, compressed state of mine ('experience of blockage'), to an unleashed, unfolded, vibrant, expansive, expressive frame of mind.  And it happened quicker than you can count to one.  The secret?  Understanding where the issue was, being able to recontextualise it via a new framework, and then the previous misunderstanding just dissolves, and the unlimited energy of consciousness is able to flow freely like a mighty River.

Looking forward to this discussion!

-cobrien  

I hope you enjoy my Observations.  Consciousness has been the crucible of my study for many a year.

[Nicholas]

Plenum summed it up for me in one word. Technique.

[anagogy]

Plenty of people are enamored of the Abraham Hicks message.  And also the Secret's message.  That is because there is a deep metaphysical/spiritual truth in the core message.  You do create your own reality.  Absolute FACT.  And yet, the technique is what is absent.

Plenum, I was wondering if you could clarify what you mean when you say the technique is absent. Do you feel that the Secret and/or Abraham Hicks does not give effective techniques for transforming ones reality? Because honestly, this hasn't been my experience with them. I do feel that many people improperly apply the techniques that have been given by these sources, which is entirely human, and natural.

[Plenum]

anagogy; the thing is, I think it's worked wonderfully for you.  You've related many times in the past that the 'create your own reality' paradigm is is operational in your existence.  That is because I believe it has slotted well into your philosophical framework, and you just needed some 'reminding' of how it worked.

So in your case, it's my entirely unfounded supposition that it was more a trigger for you, rather than being a well-founded, elaborated technique that is universally applicable for all people, in all situations.

The reason why I don't think it's effective technique is that the failure rates are just too high.  I've witnessed those failures in person, with one friend in particular, clinging to it till literal illness, and eventual death.  And likewise for a close companion of his.  Serious illness that couldn't be 'wished away'.

The fault in the technique, from my limited perspective and exposure to the material, is that it does not properly account for what has been set in motion from the past.  There is a constant injunction to concentrate on what you want, rather than what you don't want (very true, good advice), but that does not ameriolate or absolve karmic patterns.  Karmic patterns are from previous lives, but also all previous thinking in this current life.  What you have thought, you have to own.  Just thinking of something different does not dissolve what has previously been thought.  How could it be any other way?  That's the Law of Responsibility in effect.  It's like signing a contract.  What you've committed to, doesn't just go away because you don't like it any more.  The contract has to be revisited, and then deliberately and consciously annulled.  That is perfectly within one's rights as a Co-Creator.  You can change something that you've previously agreed to.  No probs.

But these 'create your own reality' schools don't teach that.  They go on about how our desires are held in abeyance (that's a term my friend taught me), until the opportunities are ripe for 'manifestation'.  And to only concentrate on your future desires.  No scope seems to be given to owning what one has done/thought in the past, to get you to your current state.  It seems to ignore the current barrage of difficult catalyst (illness, financial insolvency, poor relationships) in favor of wishful thinking.

That's just my skewed observations of it, having seen it in action in my friend's life.  He had other issues, but he put all his eggs in this basket, and it just didn't help him.  He just retreated further and further from the world, got sicker and sicker, and eventually had to be hospitalised, when he couldn't deny it any longer.

[anagogy]

Thank you for clarifying.  I see what you mean, plenum.  I sympathize with your perspective.

I can't speak to your friends failure at applying these principles, but I can definitely say that life and death is an especially difficult place to be in and rely on these principles.  The problem is, from my perspective, is when you are in a situation where you NEED something as opposed to just "wanting" something.  Mark my words, need is a state of desperation.  Or, in other words, attention to LACK.  Actually, interestingly enough, even "wanting" is attention to lack (else why would you want something?), but it is less severe than need.  And to be clear, it isn't an either or, there is a whole continuum of thought there that must be recognized for what it is.  This is a point that I think escapes a lot of people.  I say that, because it escaped me for a long time.  Eventually, the penny dropped and I got it.  The interesting thing is, even *after* clearly understanding the metaphysical principle at work, it was difficult to perform the process.  And I am in no way saying there is something wrong with "wanting" something, because there isn't, and desire is the most natural thing in the universe.  More on that below.

And you are absolutely right that there is a high failure rate.  I think there are many factors that go into this.

First off, from my perspective, the essential metaphysical principle is fundamentally simple -- absurdly so.  And it it is essentially this: your reality is a congealing of attention.  Even Ra states this, "Thus it is a matter of wishing to become able to collect one’s attention and hold it upon the desired programming."  And even so, as simple as that is, it is DIFFICULT to do.  Why?  I can really only speak from my personal experience.  And the explanation is: momentum.  A object in motion will tend to stay in motion, and it requires effort to stop it.  This applies to nonphysical intangible objects as well -- that is to say, thoughtforms.  It is easy to keep thinking the same way we are used to thinking.  We call it "second nature" or "habitual thought".  You could also say that about "belief".  It is thought that you have become so accustomed to thinking, so *efficient* at thinking, that you think it by default whenever that subject is breached (I guess you would call these "core beliefs").  And a thought is just the shape of your attention at any given time.

The fact is, habits can be extremely hard to break.  Just look at an individual with a cigarette addiction.  I can't count how many people I know that have tried to stop and simply cannot.  Why?  Just a simple matter of stop buying the things, and putting them in your mouth and lighting right?  Wrong.  But why?  Simply because it is *easier* to keep doing things as we have always done.  And it is difficult, painful even, to do differently.  Now, obviously, there is a physical addiction there too in the case of cigarettes.  And what is a physical addiction anyway?  It is just the extension of the habit of thought to the consciousness of your chemical body.  It has gotten *used* to them (and even made provisional chemical accommodations in expectancy of said drugs) and doesn't want to alter its momentum of thought either.  But the same analysis could be applied to marijuana use, which is not physically addictive, but is still mentally so (for many people).  Or nail biting, or cleaning, or exercise or any host of other habitual activities.  And the funny thing is, we know if we persisted long enough, the habit would eventually become grooved or established, and the desired activity would be then be even easy to maintain.  

So why don't we do it?  MOMENTUM!

I find it fascinating that this one little thing has so much power over people's successes and failures.  And the same problem you see with all these other habits, is a BIG part of people's failures with deliberately creating their own realities.  But there are two other components that go into it, which I will outline below:

And herein lies the secret to creating your own reality: you can't make too big a vibrational jump in your thoughts or you will fail.  It has to be a gradual building of faith for any consistent results to appear.  Many of our core beliefs are the non physical equivalent of fast moving freight trains.  Can that train instantly change directions?  Negatory friend (well, maybe if you were residing in sixth density it would be possible, but our 3rd density control over our thoughts is nowhere near that level of adeptness).  As Ra said, "The attention span of those you call children is considered short. The spiritual attention span of most of your peoples is that of the child." The fact is, it has to *gradually* slow down, stop, and then reverse, and gradually pick up more and more speed.  And if you are sensitive to your emotions, you can FEEL all this vibrational momentum when you place your attention on the thing you are trying to manifest.

The last component, from my perspective, that trips nearly everyone up is they THINK that their attention is on what they want to manifest, but in actuality, despite their honest and best efforts, they are, nevertheless, focusing on the LACK of what is wanted.  Remember what I said earlier about even wanting is state of lack?  Wanting is just the bouncing off point for creation.  You experience catalyst in this world which contrasts what you don't want, and what you do want to experience.  Every time you experience what you don't want, what you do want is then clarified.  Even if you aren't consciously aware of it.  Think of them as unconscious preferences, as a natural reaction to pain of a mental, emotional, spiritual, or physical nature.  Desire is intended to be the "director" of attention.  So you want something, you then have to move your attention away from "needing" it, or "wanting it", but instead, *appreciating* it.  That is the key.  Because true appreciation is the nonphysical version of having it right now, and so it starts coming right now.

When your attention is on "wanting it", you are still mentally affirming that it is somewhere in the future.  It out there somewhere, in the nebulous ethers of time.  Great.  But not here and now.  But if you can become content with the vibrational version of something, even to the point of no longer craving it, because you no longer feel its absence -- at that point, your reality will start twisting, contorting, bending over backwards for the reality to be actualized.  And if you pay attention to your emotions, honestly (it is easy to self deceive yourself into thinking that you don't feel insecure) you will know exactly where your attention is being poured.  When the absence, or attention to lack, is gone, you feel no fear, no doubt, you don't even care if it manifests because your happy whether it does or does not occur, because you already have contented yourself with the nonphysical version of whatever it is.

Anyway, I didn't intend for this to be so long, I guess I got carried away by a subject I'm somewhat passionate about.  Thank you, again, for sharing your thoughts plenum.  I also agree with your "karmic contract" idea, but I think it works on the same principles I've outlined here.  If you incarnate, with a certain karmic contractual plan, you will come into this life with desires and inclinations (similar to post hypnotic triggers) which lead to the mental habits that will take you to whatever destiny is to unfold.  The habits can still change, but like any strong momentum habitual thought structures, it will be challenging for sure, and that is where reality meets the law of confusion, I suppose.  Free will is not abridged, as usual, just given a challenge.  

[spero]

i love this exchange between plen and anag its like watching two experts in their craft debate metaphysics

one thing id like to add to this discussion is that it seems to me that ur both speaking about the same thing; karma, but ur both taking two different approaches in how u deal with it lol 
 
to use the one Ra quote that actually invokes momentum/inertia and karma 

 34.4 Questioner: Thank you. Would you define karma?

Ra: I am Ra. Our understanding of karma is that which may be called inertia. Those actions which are put into motion will continue using the ways of balancing until such time as the controlling or higher principle which you may liken unto your braking or stopping is invoked. This stoppage of the inertia of action may be called forgiveness. These two concepts are inseparable.

so i see plenums method as invoking understanding of past karma, accepting it, forgiving it and nullifying the original contractual agreement as it were, whilst i understand ur method anagogy to be akin to using only the principle of karma/inertia/momentum to change ur reality bit by bit or to "*gradually* slow down, stop, and then reverse, and gradually pick up more and more speed" in the desired direction
 
my question therefore anogogy would be whether u could effect more dramatic change with less effort through invoking forgiveness or a higher principle(?) than just using the principles of momentum/karma

the deeper philosophical debate might be reality creation vs undoing past karmic inertia. if a person is materially poor is this due to past momentum or is this because they havnt invoked a reality where they are materially wealthy. if its the former then alleviating past karma/momentum is important, but if its the latter than anagogy's method of reality creation becomes a useful tool in effecting an outcome.
 

[anagogy]

my question therefore anogogy would be whether u could effect more dramatic change with less effort through invoking forgiveness or a higher principle(?) than just using the principles of momentum/karma

the deeper philosophical debate might be reality creation vs undoing past karmic inertia. if a person is materially poor is this due to past momentum or is this because they havnt invoked a reality where they are materially wealthy. if its the former then alleviating past karma/momentum is important, but if its the latter than anagogy's method of reality creation becomes a useful tool in effecting an outcome.

When considering karma it is important to take into account what karma is beyond inertia or momentum, and that is, simply, energy seeking *balance*.  Energy, no matter the kind, it always seeking equilibrium and this is all karma is.  Physical water seeking its level is physical karma.  The kind of karma we, in metaphysical circles, are generally concerned with is simply that same principle but as it is manifested in consciousness.  If your specific life experiences imbalanced your spiritual energy field (with respect to undistorted unity), it would then stand to reason that further experiences, of a reciprocal or opposite nature, would then rebalance your energy field.

These experiences that will rebalance an imbalanced energy field, are automatically attracted naturally to an entity because, as I said, everything is like water seeking its level.  The universe and everything in it, is compelled to move back to the resting still center point of unity, and always will.  It doesn't matter how big the rock you throw into the water, eventually the ripples will still in the course of time.  Karma will always eventually reel you back to unity.

As I said, the experiences are naturally manifested in the course of time, but how does the mechanism work exactly?  Basically, what we call "desires" or "inclinations" grow in direct response to our spiritual energy imbalances.  We are unconsciously seeking balance, or completion, and the forces which move us, namely our desires, are the result of karma.  So all this balancing is happening unconsciously, whether we want it or not.  You are not, technically speaking, *forced* to make a given choice, but you *are* compelled to.  The same could be said for astrological influences.  The stars compel, but they do not decide your fate.

How does this tie into forgiveness and the speed at which karma is balanced or ameliorated?  It is simply, from my perspective, that forgiveness is the conscious recognition and deliberate slowing of momentum.  That's it.  It's important to keep in mind that forgiveness is always happening, because forgiveness is synonymous with balance, but conscious application of forgiveness is simply speeding up the process.  It is similar, and actually equivalent to, spiritual development.  Even were you to not consciously develop yourself, you would still spiritually grow.  It would just happen slower, because often when the karmic momentum comes back the other way to rebalance (sometimes in the same lifetime, but often in a completely different one), we get carried away in the motion and actually ADD to the momentum on the swing back.  Keep in mind, free will is still in operation despite these influences, and we are still choosing thoughts.  

Free will says that you can always throw more rocks into your pond, and add to your spiritual course load, so to speak, which will require additional balancing.  It will add to the distance you travel to the creator, but the end result is still always well.      

[Nicholas]

Well after reading Plenum and anagogys responses here last night I had an interesting dream. The key words were 'technique' and 'momentum' and my dream involved me riding into town on a brand new motorbike. It was a road worthy motor cross bike which symbolised the effortless navigation through traffic (life) with an ability to also ride over rough terrain (challenging catalyst). Before I knew it however I was travelling too fast and came off my bike (poor technique). I was uninjured but as I got up to retrieve my bike, somebody had stolen it. Somehow I managed to find them and asked why they took it. He replied that I did not know how to handle the bike and that I did not deserve to keep it. I demanded it back and he willingly handed it over, while informing me of the damage I had caused to it. Notably, one of my brake levers was broken. (so my ability to slow my momentum has been reduced)

Further on in the dream I return to town (carefully this time) and as I arrive I notice a police officer up ahead. It is at this moment that I realise that I had not put on my crash helmet before leaving home. (which I believe is also related to technique here because it refers to protection). I quickly pull into a side road so the officer does not see me. I think the police officer represents a blockage (suddenly stopped due to fear), and that it is merely a lack of attention and personal safety (both relating back to technique). Without my conscious attention, my unconscious thinking habits are doing the steering in my life, thus reducing my ability to put the breaks on them. And, that I will encounter blockages if I don't adhere to metaphysical protection techniques. 

Anyway, I think I got the stimulating help I was looking for here, so thanks Plenum & anagogy (and of course Cobrien!) for your inputs 

[Cobrien]

Thanks for the replies everyone.

Nicholas
 I tend to talk about my personal experiences a lot, and what I have distilled from them

I believe that as you become more adept you distill and refine your experience. The path you choose determines whether you seek positive or negative catalyst.

Plenum: Yes, agreed.  Although, perhaps, I would phrase it a different way.  I would rather say that one's 'reality' is the experience that is a perfect feedback for our axiom system.  Our axioms are our core assumptions/beliefs.

That certainly is an interesting way to look at it. We are within infinite creation individualized from it. There is a macro equivalent to all of the micro stasis we experience

Plenum The limitations are more to do with the experiential framework.  Here we are in 3d bodies in a 3rd density structure.  There are indeed 'laws' which govern how things operate here, but there is tremendous scope within those laws.

I see the experiential framework as the result of choice including archetypal choice that we have made under the care of the logos. I once read a book describing the three logos that influence our experience the most.

Plenum The key is, you have to know what to change, and also how to change it

Your desire should tell you what to change. While synchronicity and inspiration should tell you how to change.  I suppose it is based on the Significator and a persons relationship to it.
I agree that there is a lack of foundation knowledge in the New Age motto "you create your reality". I believe that we as a society have chosen to forget that we are connected to the infinite creator. I believe that our choice has created a catch 22 when it comes to creating our reality.
Bashar called beliefs that we think are absolute "principles of rigidity". We create our reality based on our beliefs, but if there is an assumption that a belief is a part of reality itself it becomes much more difficult to plainly see that you create your reality. Magical traditions ritualized the process of manifesting. Needing to manifest something a certain way which may seem like the only way isn't always the path of least resistance. 
The best advice I've heard on creating your reality is drop the expectations that something needs to happen a certain way or that you must expect something to happen a certain way.
Many assume that creating your reality or the law of attraction is a passive measure. Act on what you believe you must. Understand that there are effects of action coupled with intention.
I could intend to have money all day, but if I never do anything to realize it it won't happen. I think that people also have conflicting intentions which is why you must be clear with yourself

anagogy but I can definitely say that life and death is an especially difficult place to be in and rely on these principles.  The problem is, from my perspective, is when you are in a situation where you NEED something as opposed to just "wanting" something.

I believe that change does not happen until it is more painful not to change.
The power of faith I believe is linked with programming your experience. Believing against your expectations consistently creates a change in you as plenum might say axioms of experience.
Anagogy, when you say momentum I think of it like this: When something good happens you feel good even after that good thing has already happened. It continues to express itself. If you can use that principle I would focus on changing my state of being rather than my circumstances. Recovering from a mental illness coupled with severe depression that is what I did.
When you say wanting is a state of lack, I disagree with you and let me explain. If you want something and believe you can't have it then it is lack. However, if you want something, believe that you can 'have it' and focus upon obtaining it then you are empowered which is really a state of lack
Bashar offers the simplest and clearest definition of abundance that I have seen: "Abundance is the ability to do what you need to do when you need to do it".
When it comes to creating you reality or living I believe it is possible to do too much. Have you heard the expression a watched pot never boils? Worrying that you are not doing enough doesn't help unless it needs to, but by choosing that experience you have decided it will have an effect
Spero, I think the key to eliminating karma is to involve a higher principle. Think of AA, the 12 steps. This is a distorted application of the idea. If you are a controlling person you can invoke a new reality where you are not by involving a higher principle like asking "there is only self, we are one".
I believe that if you strive towards an ideal self you are in the right ball park when it comes to this idea. Intensity matters

[anagogy]

When you say wanting is a state of lack, I disagree with you and let me explain. If you want something and believe you can't have it then it is lack. However, if you want something, believe that you can 'have it' and focus upon obtaining it then you are empowered which is really a state of lack

I would say that we are describing the same thing but in different words, Cobrien.

What you call "wanting but believing you can have it" I have simply reduced to the word "appreciation".  I try to simplify things as much as I can, not that there is anything wrong with how you phrase things.  Allow me to clarify:  

I would also just say that while "believing you can have it" is closer to full fledged manifestation, it is not quite there yet in the sense that "believing you can have it" is not exactly concomitant with "believing I do, indeed, already have it".  Don't get me wrong, it is very very close, and of substantially less resistance, but there is still minute amounts of attention on "it is not here yet".  So really, we are ultimately talking about the same thing, I just like to fine tune some phrases and split conceptual hairs so to speak.

I see it as a progression of thought, with its reflection in manifested reality.  What I like about "appreciation" is that it cuts to the heart of the matter.  It is essentially "believing" and "wanting" merged into one.  The reason I don't like the word "wanting" is that it is almost too similar to the word "need" for me, which to my best understanding, implies "lack" because you only NEED things when you desperately don't have them.  Thus, I call the non-lack-based version of wanting "appreciation" instead.  Again, for me it is just a way of simplifying and streamlining the process.  

Also, there are other advantages.  Aiming for appreciation on any particular topic is like the secret back door to manifestation.  Why?  Because your emotions are always giving you direct and useful feedback about *where* your attention is being directed (think of it like your perception of a thought's "pulling power").  If your attention is more on the "absence of what you want" you will feel negative in some way.  You will experience some variety of negative emotion to the exact same degree that your attention is on the lack of what you want.  If your attention is on the absolute presence of what you want, you will feel glowing appreciation, or love in your heart.  And if you "reach" for a feeling like appreciation when trying to manifest you can intuitively cut through the static white noise of lackful thinking and "feel out" the perfect focus of the presence of what you want.  It's a great way to point the needle of your spiritual compass in one direction, so to speak.  And all "faith" or "belief" is is simply non-contradicted focus on the presence of what you want to manifest.  When your focus is purely on the presence of something, it feels like faith and appreciation, when it is on the absence, it feels like doubt and insecurity.

Basically, you are in this situation: you are in a physical world that is slowed down vibrational energy.  There is a buffer of time.  You want certain experiences, and you must travel from point A) to point B) to get there.  The thing about tangible physical reality is there is a transformation that occurs between those two points which does not happen as quickly as the inner higher vibrational intangible reality transformation.  So at the end of the day you have to ask yourself, why do I really want these things?  Ultimately, everybody thinks that they will feel better if they have the experiences that they are trying to manifest.  That is why we want things.  BUT, if you can "feel better right now", in essence, claim the feeling of the "presence of what you want" right NOW, then the tangible reflection is sure to follow.  

Bashar offers the simplest and clearest definition of abundance that I have seen: "Abundance is the ability to do what you need to do when you need to do it".
When it comes to creating you reality or living I believe it is possible to do too much. Have you heard the expression a watched pot never boils? Worrying that you are not doing enough doesn't help unless it needs to, but by choosing that experience you have decided it will have an effect

I agree.  And I love the "watched pot never boils" aphorism because it points out something important: the conscious mind is not the "doer".  It is simply the captain of the ship, to speak.  It issues the orders, to the crew, and the crew faithfully follows the commands of its captain, even if the orders are bad ones.  Our "attention" or "thought" are our directions to the crew in this analogy, and where you place that attention determines where the crew takes you.  Too much concentration on the "how" things happens retards forward progress severely.

Basically, in the watched pot analogy, if your attention is too much on "how things are" then how things can be will never show up, because you are not allowing it to.  It is far better to simply focus on the end state, and allow the details of the story of transformation, between point A) and point B) show up in divine timing.  The crew of the ship are skilled, and know what they are doing.  That is their whole purpose.  You just have to give them the leeway to do it.  But if you are giving them orders, and then immediately giving the opposite orders, you will never get anywhere.  You will experience stagnation.  I see this happen all the time, even in myself, I will focus on the presence of what I want, and then later, inadvertently dwell on the absence of what I want.  

It takes a while to get to the point where you implicitly trust in universal forces to take you where you want to go.