help for my family

[renyrat]

This is the first time I've posted here. My hubby introduced this forum to me. We have read and studied Ra and we are understanding more about energy flow and light and darkness.
We have raised to boys in a loving way, now 15 and 19.
Two months ago we were bombarded with a negative energy. Without getting into too many details, my son had a "girlfriend" for barely 2 months 2 years ago, she has filed sexual assault charges against him, totally out of the blue.
How do we deal with this? How do we remain positive?
In my heart I know it will be fine, I know he did nothing, I know it is all fabrications, but the process of going through it is very difficult.
Any visualizations, thoughts, or suggestions will be appreciated.
To me, what I have is my family, we are loving and deeply care for each other, this was a hard hit.
I send you all love and light.

[dolphin]

Two months ago we were bombarded with a negative energy. Without getting into too many details, my son had a "girlfriend" for barely 2 months 2 years ago, she has filed sexual assault charges against him, totally out of the blue.

How do we deal with this? How do we remain positive?

So he has not had contact with her in nearly two years and then BAM?

How old was your son at the time. I am guessing 17.

How old was the girl at the time?

When you said "she filed charges" has your son been arrested?

Has the State Attorney decided to prosicute?

State laws varry and sadly in some cases the most absurd circumstances follow through with insane results under one particular states laws that could ever happen in another state.

As for how to remain positive. In my experience as long as your caught up in the court system your going to be carrying a lead ball and chain and until it is over all you can do is tread water. The whole judicial process is geared towards causing the accused mental illness, anguish, and stress and it is contagious to anyone who cares about them.

Odds are it seems right now that it is far worse than it will turn out to be when it is all over. The best part is it will eventually be over and you can begin to heal and put it behind you.

Deep breathing exorcises and anything else that helps in relieving stress would be my best advice without knowing more.

[Monica]

What a difficult situation! I too am wondering the ages of your son and the girl.

I remember being nervous when my son was dating a girl, just shy of the 3-year rule. I was very relieved when she turned 17!

I know the law is intended to protect teenage girls and children from sexual predators, but it's very unreasonable for teens in a mutually consensual relationship, that just happen to be more than 3 years apart in age. When I was 14, I dated 17 and 18 -year-olds and never thought anything of it. Nor did anyone else. It's amazing to think that my actions would be considered illegal now (or, rather, the actions of the boys I dated).

I would advise first getting very clear on the laws in your state, and the facts. You might consider joining PrePaid Legal. For around $17/month they offer free attorney consultations. We've been members for many years and think of it like health insurance - you might never need it but it sure comes in handy if you do! Although, I'm not sure if they cover domestic disputes (if this would even be considered a domestic dispute...??) so you might ask before paying for the service, if they cover that sort of thing. They give discounts on attorney fees, if it comes to that.

Is there any chance of talking to the girl and ascertaining what really did happen?

Love and Light to you and your family! Remember that all is catalyst, and forgiveness breaks the cycle of karma.

[renyrat]

They were both 17. He was arrested after 2 years of no contact with her whatsoever. We have a hired a great lawyer. And thankfully we have enough money to cover everything. They are pressing charges. My son is actually doing fine, because he knows he did nothing wrong, he's sitting by me right now doing his math homework for college.
I know this is the hardest part, and I am sure it will turn out fine, but I have never had any dealings with the court system, and all I know is that it is a disfunctional system.
I meditate every morning. I send love and light to the girl so that she realizes what she is doing. I feel the energy come through me and go to her. I visualize her realizing there as she lays in bed. I visualize her knowing what is right.

[dolphin]

We have a hired a great lawyer. And thankfully we have enough money to cover everything. They are pressing charges.

I have never had any dealings with the court system, and all I know is that it is a disfunctional system.

If your son is truly innocent my gutt instinct tells me you should avoid a jury trial if you can. Sometimes the accused has a choice. I am not sure of the rules. Point is with the right Judge (emphasis) your chances of your sons innocence being a determining factor would have a greater chance of carrying the decision.

Show trials (Jury) are a crap shoot and unless you have a personal friendship, or better yet a family relationship with your lawyer your on shaky grounds right off the bat unless you have political influence which you obviously don't, or the State Attorney would have never made the decision to prosicute.

Lets hope the girls family does not have connections. The fact that the State Attorney accepted the case in a "He said; She said" is worrysome to me. States Attorneys won't even prosicute unless they feel they have some advantage going in.

Bottom line is his guilt, or innocence won't make a bit of difference.

Unlike yourself I do have some limited experience with Courts, Judges, and Lawyers. What I have learned from experience is not encouraging.

I am not sure if it may ever come into play, but his age being 17 it occurs to me that should he be found guilty as underaged there might be liability to the parents in a follow up civil case.

Has your son been arrested and booked on a charge where you then had to bail him out of jail?

Do you live in a big city, or a small town?

Has the case been mentioned in the local media?

[renyrat]

He was arrested out of the blue, and we bailed him out of jail. It is a smaller town, 20,000 people., it has not been in the media at all. We have hired a private investigator, he said he had a similar case before and the boy was aquitted.
I just can't believe it is happening to us. I have to keep positive and know it's going to be fine. I have to see it being fine, you know?

[dolphin]

He was arrested out of the blue, and we bailed him out of jail. It is a smaller town, 20,000 people., it has not been in the media at all. We have hired a private investigator, he said he had a similar case before and the boy was aquitted.
I just can't believe it is happening to us. I have to keep positive and know it's going to be fine. I have to see it being fine, you know?

People who are taking your money will always reassure you. It is part of the game.

It is not wise to allow yourselves to dole out a ton of cash to professionals and then ignore the problem confident, or relieved that it will all go away.

Remain proactive and involved in developing your sons defence. Mainstream ideology is not in your sons favor.

The popular myth is that only 2% of such accusations are false and that has caused alot of innocent people to be found guilty.

The best defence is a good offence.
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_wYv6zDcanLY/S9...zzree3.jpg

Get MAD and ANGRY. Your at War. Express your indignation. It is all part of the game. Play it to win.

The False Rape Society
Giving voice to the men and women affected by false accusations
http://falserapesociety.blogspot.com/


Don't be surprised if they offer you a plea deal with probation in order to collect a monthly income from your son. The Court is in the business of making money.

The State makes money on convictions because the Federal Government pays them an incentive to manufacture criminals.

Maybe you should make it public news for the local media. You live in a small enough town where it may be considered of interest.

Be proactive. Make it an issue. Something to consider.

[Whitefeather]

Let's visualize, all of us, a positive, good, fair, honorable and loving outcome for this family, well, both families if possible, with the lessons of love learnt without damage or harm for any party!

Those two youngsters were once in love, well, I presume. Anyway, we can say that they liked one another very much.
Now, they are in fear, both of them are!
The negative forces are throwing people against one another! It is their way of doing things since they cannot harm people directly!

I am wondering though, what is the girl afraid of now which she was not afraid before, which made her do what she is doing in accusing someone she once loved or liked very much? And, why did she let two years pass?

I think that the answers to these two questions would give clues not to disregard.

Remember that people's conflictive/attacking behaviour is rooted in fear. First is the fear and the fear has to be identify in order to bring forward any clue! You may need to identify what it is that the girl is fearing.

In any case, try not to do what the girl (or her parents) is doing, which is attacking and harming another being, out of fear. Keep the peace in your heart and in your intentions, yet keep supporting your son and your loving family!

Thought, emotions and images are powerful tools. Radiate plenty of love. Do deep breathing exercises (as Dolphins wisely advised) everyday, outside if possible, bare feet on the ground if possible.

Keep your heart in the right direction and, ask for inner guidance!

L/L, Peace and, Blessings,
W.

[dolphin]

I am wondering though, what is the girl afraid of now which she was not afraid before, which made her do what she is doing in accusing someone she once loved or liked very much? And, why did she let two years pass?

I think that the answers to these two questions would give clues not to disregard.

I would be inclined to think it has nothing to do with fear at all. More likely malice and anger that stems from emotional trauma.

It is perfectly natural for a long period of time to pass before someone gets through their initial feelings of hurt which they perhaps bottled up and kept to themselves. Two years sounds about right for a major emotional trauma.

Of course there is a big difference between psychological rape and physical rape in the courtroom. That is not to say that emotional rape is not a crime, but that is simply not prosicutable. Psychological rape can be unintentional. Sometimes people do not understand just how very sensitive their partner is when they decide to break it off and how much trauma it may cause. Such things can cause suicide.

Unfortunately there is no way to talk to the girl and work things out now. Once the case was filed it became illegal to make contact. In fact it is no longer up to the girl at this point.
Such is the nature of the law and the State once the decision to prosicute is made.

[Lavazza]

I will keep your son and your family in my prayers and meditation, Renyrat. I agree, I'm sure everything will turn out fine since it's a baseless claim. Maybe one thing that will help in the meanwhile is to try and imagine how desperate your son's ex-girlfriend or her family must feel for money. Or maybe they were hurt in some way that was completely unrelated to your family and are attempting to feel vindication by sueing your son. Of course both of those hypothetical situations are not justified and even ridiculous, but to better know the mind of the otherselves you are now engaged with will help restore the love in the situation. Nobody thinks they're "the bad guys" in any interaction.

Love and light,
~L

[Ali Quadir]

After two years... What evidence does she have? I understand american sex laws are highly dysfunctional.. But I can't imagine anything other than having the whole thing on tape or at least a gazillion witnesses unrelated to her to be sufficient evidence for this.

Could someone on the american side of the big pond give me an estimate of how likely this is to stick?

The girl should perhaps be informed that women like her have been put into prison for false rape accusations? This sort of stuff gets me seriously ticked off. Obviously all women are innocent little angels... And they would never abuse this power not even for vengeance. Everyone knows this... *sigh*

[dolphin]

Could someone on the american side of the big pond give me an estimate of how likely this is to stick?

All it takes is an accusation within the time period of the statute of limitations.
http://www.macon.com/2010/04/29/1110968/...ty-of.html

Manufacturing crime and criminals is the priority.

It is not about guilt, or innocence.

Innocence is usually determined by Money, Influence, and Politics with the exception on the ocasions when you get a judge with integrity. That is not easy.
If a judge gets the reputation of being too fair they are usually drummed out of office. I have seen it happen.

In large American Cities fully half of all arrests made that wind up in court are based on falsified police reports and if neccessary perjured testimoney.

The system fuels massive profits from plea bargains from innocent people who accept probation rather than risk a guilty verdict.

[Lavazza]

Eh, I would be pretty surprised if this went anywhere but a case dismissal, based on what I've read here. I think a good lawyer will take care of this fine. It's unfortunate that our legal system can be manipulated in this way, I agree Ali. But of course that is nothing new either as we know

[Phoenix]

What an unfortunate situation.

I don't know if you do it but do you pray? A remarkable feeling.

Also, I would be very careful about sending energy. Send it with the guidance of the higher forces perhaps.

Remember also that this girl is getting back serious karma for these actions, which takes any burden off you to be angry at her for justice. I would be interested to know what her motives are, for instance, does she just want attention, why would that be etc.

The simple fact is that, if you are in alignment (basically, if you have no resistance to this sort of truth) then you do not need catalyst unless for some serious pre- planned lesson. Keep the faith.

[norral]

dear renyrat
my heartfelt prayers and support go out to you and your family.
i shall pray for you until this situation is successfully resolved. one thing i
would humbly suggest, remember always that you are God. what i mean by this is that in your own life in the life of your family you and your family members are the masters, not some poor misguided soul who is obviously
disturbed. what i would do each day is first ask my higher self to see that divine justice is carried out in this situation. remember the higher self is
our God self it is our direct connection to all that is. It is perfect all powerfuland infallible. when we petition it it will spring into action and arrange for us the perfect outcome; the nice thing is that we dont have to worry about how it is going to do it; remember you are directly accessing the infinite power of God and of Good, it knows what it is doing and is infallible.
after you invoke your higher self then accept the fact that your request is fulfilled right here and right now. here is a sample affirmation that i hop
could be helpful to you


" Allmighty I am Presence, infinite power of the universe, i now invoke
your wondrous power and ask that you see to it that divine justice
is carried out in this situation concerning our son. turn this situation
upside down, let the truth be revealed and let all charges be dismissed . I thank you for your assistance in this matter and accept this
done right here and right now.
In the name of the infinite creator so be it amen and amen

please feel free to modify this or to disregard it if it doesnt feel
right. the point i want to get across to you is that you are not helpless and that by focusing on the higher powers you access
forces that are infinitely more powerful than anything this world
has. as i said i will continue to pray for you concerning this situation
until it is sucessfully resolved


norral

[renyrat]

norral,
Your post really made me truely realize that we are not helpless, in contrast we are powerful. I know in my heart of hearts and in my higher self that this situation is fine. I ask for help each day to the higher powers and all that is good. I meditate and do tai chi. I even found a sweet place in the back of our house that holds awesomely positive energy. But your post and the affirmation made me realize just how powerful I am in this situation.
I also receive many signs. today on my early morning walk, the birds would stop right in front of me and sing their song, and I would stop and listen. How amazing is nature! How amazing are flowers and their own special way to grow. Honestly, I've never had it spelled out so clearly to me as it is now. Birds are my friends, plants and flowers beg me to look at them and realize their glory, animals befriend me, the same pigian (with a hurt foot) comes to me on my walks by a certain bench. I have found comfort in beautiful succulent plants that i have potted and now watch change and grow. I am constantly amazed by the power of nature and animals.
The hardest part is when my thoughts go to the "what if's", and I have to pull myself back to the positive side and know it's fine. That affirmation will certainly help in those situations.
I sincerely appreciate your post.