07-22-2009, 10:50 PM
I'm glad you remembered!
Ok so here's a struggle for you: I am fat. Assuming (from your comments) that you are not, I think it would be fair to say that in this regard your body is healthier than mine. We both know, intellectually, that weight and health are not reasonable measures of the worth of any individual, that my size does not necessarily give any indications regarding my intellect, my value as a human being, where I am on my spiritual evolutionary path, etc, but knowing this and feeling it are a struggle for you. That's ok. I struggle with things, too, and it would be very difficult, if not impossible, to say which of us struggles more. My struggles are simply different (and more visible).
It's a wonderful thing, what we have in common here: We've both come to perceive that love is the central factor in our lives. (Again, basing this on what you wrote.) If my weight bothers you, well, at least it's not my snoring. I'm told I sound like a chain saw with a broken tooth. Anyway, having struggles with certain aspects of other people is just human. I don't think it's a 'bad' thing, really; it's just part of the experience. I don't like it, I'd prefer that no one judge me on my weight, and I'd love to be completely nonjudgmental myself, but ... so what if they do judge me? And so what that I am somewhat judgmental? I personally have a tough time with people who are demonstrably ignorant. Intellectually, I know they are no worse or better than me, in terms of overall value, but still. It can be a struggle.
As for key ways in becoming a more loving person: My keys may not fit your locks, skinny guy. There are no skeleton keys for unlocking inner knowing. (But I do hope there are some good suggestions made in the responses here.)
OR, perhaps there are times when they are well aware that they are being stupid and it's not at all an interference. At that point, for me, I'm annoyed because while I intellectually know I'm no better than they are, I really feel as though I must be. Same as how a well-proportioned individual might view a fat person. One may know better but still struggle with it.
Exactly. I agree; this is true for me as well. And I so admire that you stated your need for help! Wow. That, to me, is a really brave, but also generous, thing to have shared. As Queen of Argh! Part II, anyone who makes the obvious zen statements ("just be"; "just do it") will be beheaded.
And I mean that with the utmost of respect.
plur
Ok so here's a struggle for you: I am fat. Assuming (from your comments) that you are not, I think it would be fair to say that in this regard your body is healthier than mine. We both know, intellectually, that weight and health are not reasonable measures of the worth of any individual, that my size does not necessarily give any indications regarding my intellect, my value as a human being, where I am on my spiritual evolutionary path, etc, but knowing this and feeling it are a struggle for you. That's ok. I struggle with things, too, and it would be very difficult, if not impossible, to say which of us struggles more. My struggles are simply different (and more visible).
It's a wonderful thing, what we have in common here: We've both come to perceive that love is the central factor in our lives. (Again, basing this on what you wrote.) If my weight bothers you, well, at least it's not my snoring. I'm told I sound like a chain saw with a broken tooth. Anyway, having struggles with certain aspects of other people is just human. I don't think it's a 'bad' thing, really; it's just part of the experience. I don't like it, I'd prefer that no one judge me on my weight, and I'd love to be completely nonjudgmental myself, but ... so what if they do judge me? And so what that I am somewhat judgmental? I personally have a tough time with people who are demonstrably ignorant. Intellectually, I know they are no worse or better than me, in terms of overall value, but still. It can be a struggle.
As for key ways in becoming a more loving person: My keys may not fit your locks, skinny guy. There are no skeleton keys for unlocking inner knowing. (But I do hope there are some good suggestions made in the responses here.)
Quote:Perhaps its just normal for stupid people to annoying sometimes, whether you look at it as them not knowing they are being stupid or it just getting on your nerves because it interfered with your life.
OR, perhaps there are times when they are well aware that they are being stupid and it's not at all an interference. At that point, for me, I'm annoyed because while I intellectually know I'm no better than they are, I really feel as though I must be. Same as how a well-proportioned individual might view a fat person. One may know better but still struggle with it.
Quote:Seeking answers within oneself can be the key.
Exactly. I agree; this is true for me as well. And I so admire that you stated your need for help! Wow. That, to me, is a really brave, but also generous, thing to have shared. As Queen of Argh! Part II, anyone who makes the obvious zen statements ("just be"; "just do it") will be beheaded.
And I mean that with the utmost of respect.
plur