I had a similar situation happen in my life.
Remain centered. Check into yourself (seek within) when you feel centered to make decisions about your course of action. Have discussions with parents when they are more centered (not when their amygdala is being hijacked out of fear, anxiety, etc.,). If emotional charge spikes, just stop, take a deep breath, ask them to take a deep breath with you, take some time off and continue the discussion when they are more centered.
What worked for me was validating my parents' emotions surrounding the issue, staying grounded and neutral when my parents were emotional, and being able to re-frame my reason for my action as a benefit to the family (because it did in the long run... I developed more into my self and it shifted all our relationships for the better).
Unexpectedly, my parents got a dog soon after I embarked on my "journey," and this dog was really high maintenance (standard poodles). Once they got busy with fussing over the dog, they gave me less fussing lol. lucky me.
They still tease me and make comments about my pay check (they ask me if I volunteer although it's an "average" salary).
Edit: Just wanted to add, I had a sensible plan that my parents could see that I was making sensible choices. Guess this might not apply to you since you are an adult, but we're always a child in our parents eye, you know.
Remain centered. Check into yourself (seek within) when you feel centered to make decisions about your course of action. Have discussions with parents when they are more centered (not when their amygdala is being hijacked out of fear, anxiety, etc.,). If emotional charge spikes, just stop, take a deep breath, ask them to take a deep breath with you, take some time off and continue the discussion when they are more centered.
What worked for me was validating my parents' emotions surrounding the issue, staying grounded and neutral when my parents were emotional, and being able to re-frame my reason for my action as a benefit to the family (because it did in the long run... I developed more into my self and it shifted all our relationships for the better).
Unexpectedly, my parents got a dog soon after I embarked on my "journey," and this dog was really high maintenance (standard poodles). Once they got busy with fussing over the dog, they gave me less fussing lol. lucky me.
They still tease me and make comments about my pay check (they ask me if I volunteer although it's an "average" salary).
Edit: Just wanted to add, I had a sensible plan that my parents could see that I was making sensible choices. Guess this might not apply to you since you are an adult, but we're always a child in our parents eye, you know.