01-28-2010, 07:41 AM
(01-28-2010, 02:40 AM)Questioner Wrote: I wonder if there are ways anyone can suggest to defuse the emotional "hook" of the situation, to escape the trance of negative and regain a peaceful awareness of the moment's opportunities for love.
Choose to do so.
It may sound really corny but it's the bottom line. You're basically sitting on a horse that thinks he's walking into the stables because he's been doing that all winter. But summer is coming and you want him to walk you into the field. He's not going to do it unless you guide him, this means firmly calmly and compassionately insisting.
There's two paths you can take. Most people plan to fail, (I can never do this) you should plan to succeed (Let's just do it).
When you note a fish hook as you aptly call it. Laugh, don't bite. Name it if you can. These things only work if they're hidden. When you realize you've just bitten a fish hook, carefully take it out. For example by focusing on the here and now and connecting to your self. This will push out most negatives! If you realize you've bitten a fish hook in the past and there's nothing more you can do to change it... Think about it, what alternative was available? If it really bugs you that you bit it, then that's another fish hook, don't bite, instead choose to feel better.
The biggest point is recognizing it and realizing that you DO have an influence in the situation. Even a tiny influence is a big effect on the long run. In general if you have very little influence in something all you need to do to make it successful regardless is plot and scheme a little... Know what you're doing, why you're doing it and just do it.
Time is our biggest ally because it turns a small force into a big force.