10-04-2012, 01:30 PM
I started this thread for others, since I'm happily married. But the comments have triggered some reflection on my part. Having been in a monogamous relationship for 30 years, I can say with certainty that the most spiritual growth my hubby and I have had, was in the ways in which we complemented each other. We are actually very, very different! But over the years, it turned out that we each had exactly what the other needed for balance! We've seen this happen many, many, many times. It's like we each are pulling the other up and drawing out the best qualities in the other, and helping to strengthen the other.
Had I made a list of qualities I wanted, 30 years ago, I would never have attracted this particular person in my life, because I never would have thought of the particular qualities he has!
I'm not saying that making a list doesn't work. I'm just saying that, in my case, I wouldn't have thought to put on my list those things that I ended up getting which turned out to be just what I needed and wanted, even though I didn't realize it at the time.
Had I made a list of qualities I wanted, 30 years ago, I would never have attracted this particular person in my life, because I never would have thought of the particular qualities he has!
I'm not saying that making a list doesn't work. I'm just saying that, in my case, I wouldn't have thought to put on my list those things that I ended up getting which turned out to be just what I needed and wanted, even though I didn't realize it at the time.