01-14-2010, 08:19 AM
Questioner:
This is an issue of delegation. When you take on (I know you feel you are hoodwinked into it, I know all about this in my life... ) more than you are really willing to give--- because there are hidden consequences of shaming and blaming by the other person.
I encourage you to simply strengthen your will center (yellow ray) and your sacral chakra (orange ray) and the root chakra (red ray). Decord and center yourself. What I sense is that you are corded to some thoughtforms that you are allowing to dictate to you how you respond to the world around you. (I know that this is not what it seems like... it seems like it is that other person doing this to you). By decording you deprive them of food/energy and they will simply die off. They will try to get you to feed them and when this happens just simply decord and continue to strengthen your 3 lower chakras and fill youself with Love.
Then simply delegate the computer repair queries to an appropriate source... You can be nice or curt about it... or you can be curt and nice... Say something like... let me make an appointment for you with the local computer doctor... I swear to the Universe this Computer Doctor will fix your beloved computer right up and any problems you have all you have to do is call this number and the Computer Doctor will be right there. I Design the pretty programs that you see. My job is to create... this Computer Doctor... their job is to fix. Now, let me make that appointment for you right now. Smile a friendly and firm smile... the kind of smile a teacher gives when setting limits with a disruptive child... the smile that says I am being friendly but cross the line and you will have detention with someone else.
See, you have said no in a way that redirects the other person to the appropriate source of assistance. Delegation... it is a skill that I find to be invaluable.
I wish you well!
Love--
fairyfarmgirl
This is an issue of delegation. When you take on (I know you feel you are hoodwinked into it, I know all about this in my life... ) more than you are really willing to give--- because there are hidden consequences of shaming and blaming by the other person.
I encourage you to simply strengthen your will center (yellow ray) and your sacral chakra (orange ray) and the root chakra (red ray). Decord and center yourself. What I sense is that you are corded to some thoughtforms that you are allowing to dictate to you how you respond to the world around you. (I know that this is not what it seems like... it seems like it is that other person doing this to you). By decording you deprive them of food/energy and they will simply die off. They will try to get you to feed them and when this happens just simply decord and continue to strengthen your 3 lower chakras and fill youself with Love.
Then simply delegate the computer repair queries to an appropriate source... You can be nice or curt about it... or you can be curt and nice... Say something like... let me make an appointment for you with the local computer doctor... I swear to the Universe this Computer Doctor will fix your beloved computer right up and any problems you have all you have to do is call this number and the Computer Doctor will be right there. I Design the pretty programs that you see. My job is to create... this Computer Doctor... their job is to fix. Now, let me make that appointment for you right now. Smile a friendly and firm smile... the kind of smile a teacher gives when setting limits with a disruptive child... the smile that says I am being friendly but cross the line and you will have detention with someone else.
See, you have said no in a way that redirects the other person to the appropriate source of assistance. Delegation... it is a skill that I find to be invaluable.
I wish you well!
Love--
fairyfarmgirl