The act of eating is a service.

[Tango]

Cant we just love each other and stop arguing?

We can love each other even while we argue.

At one point, one realizes that discussing the speaker instead of what is spoken is the part that may be less loving. But arguing per se can certainly be done lovingly.

I love it when people are authentically themselves at any given moment; even when it's not pretty! And especially when the view is not apparently beautiful by standard norms ... I find beauty! ... because it gives me an intimate view inside of myself that is otherwise not so easily available.