12-19-2009, 07:50 PM
(12-19-2009, 11:38 AM)Aaron Wrote: A few days ago, one of my close friends broke his arm (a truly necessary catalyst for him, I won't go into detail but it revolves around him needing to find love for his family and realize that he is not in control of all things) So I have been spending much time with him, but since he is by nature so negative, I find him "taking and gobbling up" my positive energy and dragging me down to negative (of course he doesn't realize that he unconsciously does this). I realize that this is a kind of dual catalyst, or catalyst for the both of us, but I am struggling.
Thank you Aaron for giving us the opportunity to objectivity look into an interesting experience and learn from it. It is always easier as a third person.
The first thing that comes to me is the 'resistance and acceptance'. It is some kind of resistance that drains the energy. In my humble opinion, he is not gobbling up anything. It is your resistance to his attitude (?) that does not allow you to be relaxed and in a let-go state. We lose or gain things based upon our intentions/actions. The others are just there to support our intentions as co-creators.
You probably need to just accept his so called negative attitude and love him for who he really is. He does not need to change for you to love him unconditionally. Accepting his choice does not change who you are and your own intentions and choices. Paradoxically this might be the best way to change him.
But again- every situation is different and sometimes the catalysts may be too much to bite at a time and then you might follow the same concept but take it slowly. By managing the time spend with him and digesting the catalyst provided before going further.