2007.03.25 The Female Orgasm

[Shemaya]

a "Real man" or "Real woman" really is... Then you'll note that anything a real man or woman is, the other gender requires as well.

Amen to that! One thing that expands my heart is seeing a father care and nurture his children, a really beautiful thing.

Don't forget the mothers! Their nurturing and loving interactions with their children are also heart warming. I'm sad that in this society we consider it special when a man does it.. But men really do it all the time. A man's bond to his child is as overwhelming as it is for a woman.

This should not be special. Is it like saying a black guy is really decent... Like saying a jewish person is not stingy at all. Or suggesting that a woman is surprisingly capable. It betrays our expectations.

Yes I see your point, noting that as something"special" is a reflection of my programmed cultural conditioning, it really is just natural for men to nurture their children. It's really a natural everyday occurrence. Though, my heart feels full when I see mama love too...

I am seeing it more and more, in my partner and others...the natural nurturing love that is free from cultural biases.

But Yin and Yang kind of suggest that polarity. I really really meant a spectrum in the sense that the polarity is illusory! It is caused by putting two people together and it is different in each couple. Some couples have it reversed. It exists, but only when two people are together. And they don't even need to be opposite genders. Same sex couples are as natural as different sex couples.

and the physical reinforces that illusion, because our bodies look different, so it is harder to step out of the illusion in order to integrate the polarities. I am female and I think along the spectrum that I could use some more yang to get balanced. In my life, I have tended to be less accepting of my "yang" expressions.

My conflict with men as a gender has essentially been my conflict with my inner "male"/animus.

As was mine! And the problems I was experiencing in relationships with women was part and parcel to my conflict with my own gender.

yes, integrating both energies within is certainly a process and states of non-integration cause conflict, at least from my experience.