2007.03.25 The Female Orgasm

[Steppingfeet]

I'm done with this Monica.. If you are unable to see my point now then you never will..

I was never dictating your point of view.. You've imagined that and from that point on you went blind as a bull who sees a red flag. You literally only saw the parts of my messages that you could see as congruent with your anger.. The crazy thing is that right now it is you who is dictating my point of view... Not the other way round.. And yes this is only my opinion.

Mr. Ali Quadir, if I may offer my opinion: I disagree with this. Honestly I saw you responding to Monica in a way which said, "This is what you are saying Monica".

And Monica responded back saying, "Not so, jolly chap, I was actually saying so and so about such and such. You're misreading me."

And then you say, "No, my friend, I'm not saying what you just said, what I'm saying is actually this."

And round and round it goes.

What I would most like to speak to is this seed of separation called an assumption of intentional misintrepretation. I've found in my experience that the point at which the feelings begin to go sour and separation begins to cloud the vision usually coincides with a feeling that the other self is intentionally doing something or other to the self that is undesired. (We can be a lot more forgiving when we see unintentional and thus innocent undesired activity.)

I could be misreading the situation, but it seems that among multiple parties there is a sense that the other is intentionally being hard-headed and unwilling. Meanwhile, from my point of view, I see all three of you trying to meet the other, but due to whatever reason - your own innate distortions, gleeful negative entities disrupting the process, or Mercury retrograde - you three are unable to satisfy one another.

Also, saying as you said, "I am really disappointed.. I thought so much more of you..." makes a personal, disparaging remark that's unnecessary and doesn't serve the process, in my humble opinion. Who hears that they are now officially thought less than and feels closer to achieving reconciliation with the speaker, or feels supported, or feels more motivated to communicate?

I am no moral authority. I speak words of separation every day. If I as a fellow seeker could say one thing that would be considered, that's to trust the positive nature of the other and assume that the other is trying. Because as far as my limited vision can see into your quandary, all three of you are trying.

With love, Gary