2007.03.25 The Female Orgasm

[Ali Quadir]

Yes, this is what I responded and objected to...

I compared the sentence to the old and fortunately mostly forgotten idea that women need men to help them to think properly.

Good heavens, Ali, I thought you knew me better than that!

So did I!!! And therefore I was shocked to hear you say: "My interpretation of Ra's words on the subject is that women have a sacred responsibility to help guide men from mere lust (lower chakras only) to the spiritual expression of sexuality (communion on the higher chakras also)." You seem to be terribly offended that I see gender bias in that. But lets reverse the situation... If I suddenly were to say "Men have a sacred responsibility to help women to think properly." Would you not respond in exactly the same way as I did?

For the sake of argument lets say you respond the same way.. You ask if you misunderstood me and remind me that those words sound dangerously close to a chauvinism that went extinct half a century ago...

Then imagine me responding not by revoking or clarifying my words, but strengthening them by quoting statistics and examples how women really need men, "oh they'd be totally lost without us!"...

That's the experience I had with you in this thread. You can claim I should know better. But I've seen a lot of very reasonable women express similar bias. In exactly the same way.

The past year I've been confronted with my own gender bias... By now I don't have the illusion that I am without bias.. I don't believe anyone is without bias. I know no people who I can say to be without this bias. We all have some of that bias Monica... You too.. That might sound condescending to you. But it's a fact of life to me.