Talking, Enjoyment and Emotional Connection

[zenmaster]

Why do some people enjoy small talk and others don't? Why do some people feel connected to someone while talking about the weather while another person only feels connection if they discuss something they're interested in in detail? Is it possible to derive enjoyment and feel connection from mundane topics through balancing or discipline?

As a person comes to know themselves the small talk vs detail context (with respect to connection) matters less and less. The imbalance between extroversion and introversion lessens. The shallow introvert becomes a deeper extrovert and vice versa.