Evolving the self vs. Accepting the self

[Peregrinus]

i would tend to see accepting / loving as the first step towards initiating change

i suspect that as long as you're avoiding or battling against something the choices you make regarding that aspect of yourself may tend to be ineffective

accepting it and accepting the learning it offers would, i suspect, aid in the change you would eventually like to make

Well said Lorna,

perhaps i should try that approach rather than the approach I have been taking. I have been making progress though, so perhaps I will try both!