11-09-2011, 12:55 PM
I can't speak very well about the military enrollment idea, but I believe I can speak to the relationship issues you mentioned. As a married man and father of two, I can attest to what you said about women being attracted to that sort of archetypal 'rebel' if you will. I think it goes back to prehistorical survival interests- i.e. females are attracted to someone who it seems will fight for their best interest, shows power, etc. None of these desires are in any way at the conscious level, it all operates in the deep "old" mind. As for myself, I would not categorize myself as a 'bad boy' by any measure, and fortunately for me my wife was never attracted to that sort of thing primarily. However we have spoken about the phenomenon together and even she admits that there is an appeal to it. And she's gone so far as to say that she actually appreciates in a non-direct way times where I will hold my ground on something, even if it is at odds with her.
Also there are ways in which we as men can help our female companions feel fulfilled without having to be jerks (bad boy, rebel, etc). One such way is to stand by her side in times of need. This opportunity doesn't come up all the time, but it happened with my wife and I about six months ago when an overly rude and condescending receptionist at a hospital nearly brought my wife to tears. I was waiting in the car while this was going on. When I found out what happened, I marched back in and calmly but sternly informed the lady in question that she was out of line and disrespectful, especially unacceptable at a hospital where people might be dealing with stress, anxiety, fear or sadness. I did this in front of her peers and customers who were in line. In truth I didn't like doing it, I was a nervous wreck leading up to and after the encounter, but I saw it as an honor / duty to support my wife (primary reason) and to offer the receptionist a reality check (secondary reason).
I'd be interested to hear more about what you all think on this topic.. it's quite complicated and I only understand it well from my perspective with my wife.
Lastly, for a somewhat comedic, somewhat truthful view on this matter, we can always turn to the wisdom of The Onion,
http://www.theonion.com/articles/girlfri...nter,1507/
Love and Light,
Eric
Also there are ways in which we as men can help our female companions feel fulfilled without having to be jerks (bad boy, rebel, etc). One such way is to stand by her side in times of need. This opportunity doesn't come up all the time, but it happened with my wife and I about six months ago when an overly rude and condescending receptionist at a hospital nearly brought my wife to tears. I was waiting in the car while this was going on. When I found out what happened, I marched back in and calmly but sternly informed the lady in question that she was out of line and disrespectful, especially unacceptable at a hospital where people might be dealing with stress, anxiety, fear or sadness. I did this in front of her peers and customers who were in line. In truth I didn't like doing it, I was a nervous wreck leading up to and after the encounter, but I saw it as an honor / duty to support my wife (primary reason) and to offer the receptionist a reality check (secondary reason).
I'd be interested to hear more about what you all think on this topic.. it's quite complicated and I only understand it well from my perspective with my wife.
Lastly, for a somewhat comedic, somewhat truthful view on this matter, we can always turn to the wisdom of The Onion,
http://www.theonion.com/articles/girlfri...nter,1507/
Love and Light,
Eric
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