Why do wanderers have low self-esteem

[seejay21]

I'm currently suffering a self-esteem, ego crushing issue myself. I'm going through a bad breakup. I've been with this wonderful woman for 3 1/2 years, and the last 18 months have been extremely painful at times. The issues are serious ones, involving loyalty, respect, and honor, and anger. We've been on and off and on again, but this time, it's over. The sad part that crushes me know is that she won't respond to me at all. My email, text, and phone calls go unanswered. It crushes me that she is unable to find the good things we had, and now she has no value of me at all.

Certainly, I don't need her to value me to know that I'm valued, but after so long, you end up measuring your self worth by how your best friends see you. When they stop being loyal to your heart it can make you really sad.

But more to the point of this thread, I think, as wanderers, we go above and beyond to make things right, to make things work, when the right "normal" thing to do is to let go.