Why do wanderers have low self-esteem

[rva_jeremy]

I suppose it's tough to know that the most valuable thing you have to offer isn't appreciated by the wider society. It can seem natural for wanderers to want to love and serve everybody in a sort of universal, abstract sense, especially with so much suffering in the world. But that service will rarely be satisfying because we're in separate bodies closed off from direct experience of the social memory complex on purpose. So if you draw your sense of self from your ability to serve that wider social identity, it will be hard to maintain an emphasis on the things you wandered here to do.

That's why I believe it's really important that one's service to others be particular and personal: so you draw your self-esteem from genuine, deep relationships with one or a couple of good friends who can know and appreciate you. Seems to me that high self-esteem in wanderers usually stems from being able to find people, if only a few, who know who you are. If you can't find those people, the loneliness can be crushing.