The lesson of third density

[kycahi]

i don't believe one has to be a social butterfly. i avoid people as much as i can but that doesn't mean i don't get along with them when they come my way. but i literally get sick from spending too much time "out there". and i don't think that means i have a blockage or is anything bad. it's just my sensitivity.

Meaning, I think, that you are one of the introverts, Ocean. Dr. Jung said people tend to be primarily Extraverts or Introverts . The common definitions are that Extraverts love being around lots of people and Introverts don't like being around other people.

His descriptions are a little different. Say a person is exhausted for some reason. If an extravert, the person would go be with other people in order to restore energy. An introvert would want to go be alone in order to restore energy.

So take that tendency in mind and carefully decide how to interact with others. I'm an introvert too, so I can easily slip into my default habit of staying home alone and read or compute or watch video. I try to overcome that by not only going somewhere, but interacting.

For example, on Sunday I went to a Kaiser hospital for a blood draw. My old self would walk into the front door, keep my attention directed away from anybody and look at signs to direct me to the lab. Now, to take advantage of 3D human interaction, I looked at two women at the reception desk. One was a co-worker visiting the receptionist. I smiled at both and said, "HI, I'm looking for the Lab." They smiled back and said "Go through there and turn left." I thanked them and found the lab right away. Although I hadn't been to this hospital before, I had looked online and saw that the "Lobby Laboratory" had Sunday hours and already figured it was just inside. I was equally friendly to the lab lady. I hardly felt the needle go into my arm and praised her technique. It went fast and on my way out I smiled and waved to both women at the front desk. They responded with equal friendliness.

This definitely is not the old me. I used to have a "serious" face which, too often, looked like a mean face. I worked at smiling at strangers when I visited Hawaii because most people there automatically smile. It became easy and now I like doing it. If I give a little bit of happy to others, I know that it goes toward my 51%, so why not?

I used to keep my hands to myself, but now when appropriate I touch an arm or shoulder or pat a back as I say something positive. Touch triples the benefit of good words, IMHO.

Another reason this became easy for me is my mental health medicine, bupropion . I am grateful every day of my life for that stuff.