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[Conifer16]

well, i think you should just ask her in person if she accepted your request.

i get the fear of going out, i have that too. when i lived in cities i always had feelings of ominous dread when i went outside, i couldn't understand why, since it was quite safe, it was like this drape of fear that hung in the sky... do you feel like that or is it something else? i couldn't understand if it was general anxiety or maybe feeling all those people empathically. but maybe some meditation exercises to calm you before you go out could help? or somekind of protection prayer or shield that you visualize around yourself? visualizing doesn't work well for me but it helps a lot of people.

as for the girl, i'd say... don't overthink this. anxiety and overthink go paw in paw. you gotta relax, clear your mind, try to find this calm place inside you before you talk to her. remember to breathe. and remember she's young as are you, so whether or not she likes you now, doesn't mean she won't in the future.

for the record i'm not an expert in girls since i always get male in inner gender tests but i hope i made sense.

Hi,
Yes you make sense. And the fear is of social interaction, I am just afraid to talk to people. It is irrational but still there. Luckily I am getting over it if slowly. And it is hard for me to describe my situation fully or more clearly and so all the advice I have been getting it really good advice but not as suited to the situation as would be hoped. But thank you anyway. And I only overthink it when I start to dwell on how lonely I am because remember how for two years I isolated myself in my house and only recently have started to go out more and that would mean that I have no friends in Oregon only in Colorado. And the funny thing is almost all my friends in Colorado are girls so it would seem that I have lost my ability to be comfortable around girls. And by the way according to all my friends what attracted them to me in the first place is how funny I am. So I have that on my side. I just need to remember how to be comfortable around girls again and I should be alright.

Thanks,
Conifer16
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