Argh! Part II

[AlexKawajima]

I'm glad you remembered!

Ok so here's a struggle for you: I am fat. Assuming (from your comments) that you are not, I think it would be fair to say that in this regard your body is healthier than mine. We both know, intellectually, that weight and health are not reasonable measures of the worth of any individual, that my size does not necessarily give any indications regarding my intellect, my value as a human being, where I am on my spiritual evolutionary path, etc, but knowing this and feeling it are a struggle for you. That's ok. I struggle with things, too, and it would be very difficult, if not impossible, to say which of us struggles more. My struggles are simply different (and more visible).

It's a wonderful thing, what we have in common here: We've both come to perceive that love is the central factor in our lives. (Again, basing this on what you wrote.) If my weight bothers you, well, at least it's not my snoring. I'm told I sound like a chain saw with a broken tooth. Anyway, having struggles with certain aspects of other people is just human. I don't think it's a 'bad' thing, really; it's just part of the experience. I don't like it, I'd prefer that no one judge me on my weight, and I'd love to be completely nonjudgmental myself, but ... so what if they do judge me? And so what that I am somewhat judgmental? I personally have a tough time with people who are demonstrably ignorant. Intellectually, I know they are no worse or better than me, in terms of overall value, but still. It can be a struggle.

As for key ways in becoming a more loving person: My keys may not fit your locks, skinny guy. There are no skeleton keys for unlocking inner knowing. (But I do hope there are some good suggestions made in the responses here.)

Perhaps its just normal for stupid people to annoying sometimes, whether you look at it as them not knowing they are being stupid or it just getting on your nerves because it interfered with your life.

OR, perhaps there are times when they are well aware that they are being stupid and it's not at all an interference. At that point, for me, I'm annoyed because while I intellectually know I'm no better than they are, I really feel as though I must be. Same as how a well-proportioned individual might view a fat person. One may know better but still struggle with it.

Seeking answers within oneself can be the key.

Exactly. I agree; this is true for me as well. And I so admire that you stated your need for help! Wow. That, to me, is a really brave, but also generous, thing to have shared. As Queen of Argh! Part II, anyone who makes the obvious zen statements ("just be"; "just do it") will be beheaded.

And I mean that with the utmost of respect.
plur

Aha, well yeah I have a knack for saying whats on my mind and this has been bugging me, cause I really don't like having bitterness towards people.

I actually have some weight issues (about 30 lbs overweight) which really don't make me any better, and when I think of it I don't really consider myself that way in principle.
Maybe its the R-complex bringing forth the preconceived programming of this disgust in obese people.

In my daily life, I happen to come across people that have these issues and I am referring to the overtly obese. I do understand that this situation for people also is like a downward spiral effect, where they really cannot do much to help themselves because it has brought them to such a low level mentally and physically. Writing about this actually
makes me feel better and it almost excersises that.

Perhaps I just need to look at it from that perspective in that, their situation could be more than they can control,
so that does not warrant them to be on the side of your hate.

To rant about some more things in the name of Argh!, I really hate my damn Metabolism. It really sucks!, but there is a solution for that also, its called exercise and eating better. I absolutely loate smokers(about 95% of the time) as it seems that cigarette smoke goes out of its way to find me. How does one evaluate and curb that hatred exacly? Almost seems like a healthy to despise cigarette smoke. It is also true that the drug has corrupted its inhabitor and that smokers are having their lives controlled by a thing that is skinnier and smaller than the index finger.

I just have all this going on and I just see it being in the way of my spiritual advancement ya know. Thats my morning rant. Hope I didn't offend pluralone, I don't think I did and honestly I want to see people in a more loving way. I feel pretty balanced mostly. I feel inebriated by the wonders of oneness . It is such a great thing.

Obstacles in the road are going to just be there regardless and is that exactly what hatred is?. I do understand that people are people and are who they are despite what they are. Doesn't give them any reason to not be loved or at least be deserving of love in general and not be on the side of hatred.

Anyways good morning everyone. The song "Love Street" by The Doors just shuffled in on my MP3 player. It game me a jolt of awesomeness.