07-14-2009, 05:30 PM
Taha Wrote:What happens, and how am I going feel, when it doesn't work..?
I know a lot of folks who would say that asking such a question actually creates the situation - one allows that it won't work and so it doesn't. Myself, I think there's more to it than that. But for me the better question is "What happens, and how am I going to feel, when it's done?" If I keep the answer to that question in mind, I find it helps.
Where I get stuck is bridging the gap between knowing what needs to be done and actually doing it. "Just do it" is a simple answer to that, but "simple" does not necessarily mean "easy", and for me the simple answer is often the hardest. In response to certain situations in my childhood, I developed the ability to completely disconnect from my self and my surroundings. While that served a good purpose when I was a kid, over time it's enabled me to develop some really self-destructive habits. I need to replace what was once a valid coping tool with one that is more healthy and in balance with who I am and what my goals are now. "Just do" that?
Right. "Just" replace a life-long point of perception and method of function. Sure. And tomorrow I'll "just" build a new city to live in.
Hm. Can ya tell I've been struggling with this lately? Acceptance, for me, has been a two-edged sword: On the one hand, I've replaced self-hatred with self-love (for the most part), but on the other hand, acceptance has enabled me to numb myself out toward - to disconnect emotionally from - the lingering behaviors that began back when I hated me. Seems the simple answer would be to just stop those behaviors. *deep sigh*
When "just do it" isn't an option, how do I take these steps? Can "just do it" be divided down into smaller, more "do"-able steps?
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