07-08-2009, 09:30 AM
Wonderful outcome Phoenix 
Does the kid know that he's not the only one who is missing Granny? If there is doubt, just affirming to him that he's not the only one keeping her memory alive might give him a stronger sense of not suffering this alone. One of the hard things of losing someone is that after a while people seem to act as if they don't even remember the lost person and people get the feeling they're alone in suffering the loss.
An easy way not to turn it into a big thing might be to just blurt it out with a big smile "Hey kid, I dreamed of granny, she asked me to tell you to do a good job in school!!!" Depending on his reaction you can state that you miss her or ask if he misses her. Be attentive to delayed reactions. He might not respond at first but after thinking a bit might still feel the need to ask questions and kids with problems can be shy.
Also grannies tell kids to do well in school, this is rarely interpreted as annoying or threatening or forcing... It's what grannies are supposed to say...
What is your relation to the kid by the way? Uncle?
Does the kid know that he's not the only one who is missing Granny? If there is doubt, just affirming to him that he's not the only one keeping her memory alive might give him a stronger sense of not suffering this alone. One of the hard things of losing someone is that after a while people seem to act as if they don't even remember the lost person and people get the feeling they're alone in suffering the loss.
An easy way not to turn it into a big thing might be to just blurt it out with a big smile "Hey kid, I dreamed of granny, she asked me to tell you to do a good job in school!!!" Depending on his reaction you can state that you miss her or ask if he misses her. Be attentive to delayed reactions. He might not respond at first but after thinking a bit might still feel the need to ask questions and kids with problems can be shy.
Also grannies tell kids to do well in school, this is rarely interpreted as annoying or threatening or forcing... It's what grannies are supposed to say...
What is your relation to the kid by the way? Uncle?