04-13-2011, 07:30 AM
I agree with these views on celibacy.
Like anything, too much of one thing is not good. If my thinking about sex started leaning toward selfgratification and further down the STS path, a celibate hiatus could help me set my mind back on the right track. Too much celibacy can eventually tip thoughts right back to STS thinking via suppression and control, torture to self even.
I am currently "on the wagon" since new years. I had gotten into what I viewed as a destructive use of alcohol, so my spirit asked that I take a break. I feel good about it, positive. Currently, the hiatus is strengthening me. I don't imagine myself quitting forever, and I have placed no burden on myself that it is "bad" or "wrong". Right now, I'm simply enjoying myself without it. It's not torture. I was at a place where one wasn't enough and always led to seven more. I can refuse the one with ease, but after that one... Woohoo ;-).
TMI. Celibacy can be good if it is good for YOU. If you enjoy NOT doing it because you feel better without it, it is good. If you are forcing yourself in order to achieve a preconceived result, eh, I'm a little worried.
Like anything, too much of one thing is not good. If my thinking about sex started leaning toward selfgratification and further down the STS path, a celibate hiatus could help me set my mind back on the right track. Too much celibacy can eventually tip thoughts right back to STS thinking via suppression and control, torture to self even.
I am currently "on the wagon" since new years. I had gotten into what I viewed as a destructive use of alcohol, so my spirit asked that I take a break. I feel good about it, positive. Currently, the hiatus is strengthening me. I don't imagine myself quitting forever, and I have placed no burden on myself that it is "bad" or "wrong". Right now, I'm simply enjoying myself without it. It's not torture. I was at a place where one wasn't enough and always led to seven more. I can refuse the one with ease, but after that one... Woohoo ;-).
TMI. Celibacy can be good if it is good for YOU. If you enjoy NOT doing it because you feel better without it, it is good. If you are forcing yourself in order to achieve a preconceived result, eh, I'm a little worried.
(04-13-2011, 05:01 AM)Meerie Wrote: I am not even sure if I could want an open relationship myselfnot for me. Not at this juncture of my life. I have everything I want in this department.
All I can say is that I have been the third girl in a relationship, the affair so to speak.
It sucked, but not so much because I was the affair, and not the official girlfriend / spouse , but because it always had to be kept secret :@
And in the end it is unfair toward the other woman. I wouldn't do it again.
