Why/How to prefer love?

[Sacred Fool]

 
I don't find that your words very convey your thoughts, but I'm sensing that what you're picking up on is the innate evolutionary impulse of consciousness to become more encompassing and less distorted.  I think this is a truism as universal as the famous "this, too, shall pass."  That is, it's a ever-applicable phrase: consciousness at any level can be said to be seeking an higher, more beautiful state of awareness.  (Although there can be a lot of confusion along the way.)

The problem you seem to be confronting is that of choice.  And, indeed, in some sense the avenues of the exploration of consciousness are boundless.  It's your job, as a being with free will, to choose your own pathway.

Alternatively, you can just sit there and talk about it until the cows come home if that's your preference.