05-11-2009, 11:11 AM
I am bothered by the fear that if the young one in this discussion is not shown clearly the difference between this world and his memories he can end up living between two worlds. Which has the result of not actually connecting to this one, which in turn has the result of not making the most of it.
In effect he received a body and a life, which is like a Porche, but he'll treat it like a Prius.
It happens a lot. Practically all Wanderers have experienced this, most in my experience never fully resolve it, but past lives can cause the same problems. Imho the kid needs to connect to this world for the obvious reason that he is here, and not there. If he is allowed or stimulated to continue going into the other world then that world will become too large in his experience.
Eventually he's going to have to find a place for the past life. But he'll have to find a place for the current life, right now... And this is the job you find yourself thrown into your lap
I'm sure you're able because you were picked by him.
I'm not saying it is wise to deny the past life... It is clearly not. And all previous comments are completely valid and should be taken to heart, write down whatever he says about his past lives and give it back to him when he is old enough. But I suggest a kind of accepting firmness. While the past life memories are accepted for what they are. And the child is allowed to make remarks and think about it. It must be informed and reminded that this past life is a different place from the current life. Just like when you read a book or watch a movie the events of this movie or book are semi real, educational and have a kind of separate existence... They are however not this world and should not be mistaken for it.
This is not an easy situation. I would suggest engaging the child into this world as often as possible and affirming frequently the requirement to be a part of this world. This cannot be forced. The child can only be invited or tempted to come into this world. Forcing it will lead to automatic behavior and a further withdrawal of the soul. So in case of doubt, err on the side of compassion.
I came from another planet I knew this from a young age. This was deeply imprinted on my personality. I did not connect to this world for a long time. Around 25 I met a psychic healer who worked with me for a while. He told me I was wired to self destruct unless I chose to connect to the world. Basically what happens is that you close the solar plexus and the amount of energy that comes from the earth into you is so small that the entire entity starves until he leaves the place he does not want to be. I was already in this process and had already used a knife on myself and had thoughts of suicide.
I had treated all my friends and family as people I was visiting, not as my home or tribe. With courtesy and love, but not with a "You're mine" approach. In other words, I did not take possession of my position as a member of their group. Later, after I accepted the whole human race as my tribe I started connecting and this feels much more vital, vibrant and alive. The other world in my case was my primary world I was only here for a time until I could leave. Now it is secondary to my existence here. Still deeply important to me but secondary to my job to my loved ones and to my presence and responsibilities on earth.
If your child is similarly affected then the birth and early years will likely manifest some problems. I was very premature. I only slept the first year of my life and refused to eat most of my childhood. I was sickly and responded with fear to change. The health behavior of your child which we usually do not call conscious choices will have some "Get me out of here" symptoms. The more you can engage your child to be here the less he will be bothered by similar symptoms if he manifests in the same way I do.
In the situation of the spider, perhaps the proper response would be "I know you miss them and love them, but they are not here. I am, and I love you completely and will do everything in my power to protect you every time you need me."
Your love is the strongest bridge, if you can give him a safe place to exist in and from there explore the world together I'm sure he will find it easier to emotionally connect to this world...
Also... Don't close yourself! If someone comes along to give you some emotional support, and you're certain his intents are pure and his structure is mature, and if you like him. It'd be a pity if you were not in a position to accept. In effect you'll have adopted a personality structure where now it's you that keeps the world at a distance. You don't want to become a dyad with your son. If he is to learn to be open, you must be too...
In effect he received a body and a life, which is like a Porche, but he'll treat it like a Prius.
It happens a lot. Practically all Wanderers have experienced this, most in my experience never fully resolve it, but past lives can cause the same problems. Imho the kid needs to connect to this world for the obvious reason that he is here, and not there. If he is allowed or stimulated to continue going into the other world then that world will become too large in his experience.
Eventually he's going to have to find a place for the past life. But he'll have to find a place for the current life, right now... And this is the job you find yourself thrown into your lap
I'm sure you're able because you were picked by him.I'm not saying it is wise to deny the past life... It is clearly not. And all previous comments are completely valid and should be taken to heart, write down whatever he says about his past lives and give it back to him when he is old enough. But I suggest a kind of accepting firmness. While the past life memories are accepted for what they are. And the child is allowed to make remarks and think about it. It must be informed and reminded that this past life is a different place from the current life. Just like when you read a book or watch a movie the events of this movie or book are semi real, educational and have a kind of separate existence... They are however not this world and should not be mistaken for it.
This is not an easy situation. I would suggest engaging the child into this world as often as possible and affirming frequently the requirement to be a part of this world. This cannot be forced. The child can only be invited or tempted to come into this world. Forcing it will lead to automatic behavior and a further withdrawal of the soul. So in case of doubt, err on the side of compassion.
I came from another planet I knew this from a young age. This was deeply imprinted on my personality. I did not connect to this world for a long time. Around 25 I met a psychic healer who worked with me for a while. He told me I was wired to self destruct unless I chose to connect to the world. Basically what happens is that you close the solar plexus and the amount of energy that comes from the earth into you is so small that the entire entity starves until he leaves the place he does not want to be. I was already in this process and had already used a knife on myself and had thoughts of suicide.
I had treated all my friends and family as people I was visiting, not as my home or tribe. With courtesy and love, but not with a "You're mine" approach. In other words, I did not take possession of my position as a member of their group. Later, after I accepted the whole human race as my tribe I started connecting and this feels much more vital, vibrant and alive. The other world in my case was my primary world I was only here for a time until I could leave. Now it is secondary to my existence here. Still deeply important to me but secondary to my job to my loved ones and to my presence and responsibilities on earth.
If your child is similarly affected then the birth and early years will likely manifest some problems. I was very premature. I only slept the first year of my life and refused to eat most of my childhood. I was sickly and responded with fear to change. The health behavior of your child which we usually do not call conscious choices will have some "Get me out of here" symptoms. The more you can engage your child to be here the less he will be bothered by similar symptoms if he manifests in the same way I do.
In the situation of the spider, perhaps the proper response would be "I know you miss them and love them, but they are not here. I am, and I love you completely and will do everything in my power to protect you every time you need me."
Your love is the strongest bridge, if you can give him a safe place to exist in and from there explore the world together I'm sure he will find it easier to emotionally connect to this world...
Also... Don't close yourself! If someone comes along to give you some emotional support, and you're certain his intents are pure and his structure is mature, and if you like him. It'd be a pity if you were not in a position to accept. In effect you'll have adopted a personality structure where now it's you that keeps the world at a distance. You don't want to become a dyad with your son. If he is to learn to be open, you must be too...