10-09-2019, 10:13 PM
My answer would be to find to be thankful for the relationship.
In thankfulness there is no place for expectations of more, nor feelings that something has to be resolved, restored or rectified. It is a state having come to terms with what was and having distilled the influence it had upon yourself, which enables to be at peace.
Meeting anyone is always just coincidence and an unknown in two journeys of self-discovery. There are little reasons, if any, to not find to be thankful unless we don't learn what it is teaching us about ourselves. There is never really anything that is all that personal in relationships, are others not just other-yous after all? Anything that you have felt for someone could've been felt for someone other and so the issues that you have are always more about your own self than the person with whom you were in a relationship with. So finding to be thankful is really a work of distilling what is about yourself and from there you let go of these cords (your own clinging) and can then open yourself to new opportunities. Because life is truly only opportunity.
This can apply to more than just human relationships. I know of someone that I know will have a really hard time with their dog's death in a few year, because of how much it has been a source of love and emotional support, and this was the answer that I came up with to help alleviate the depression. To find to be thankful for what was. The dog would not want you to curl up on yourself and wither, it would not want you to stop loving new things, heck dogs love meeting new dogs and people themselves more than we even do. If you find to be thankful, then the thought of it will bring you joy, but if you keep it about yourself and your owns lessons and beliefs that you can't hold on without it, do well in life or be happy with just yourself, then you are tainting everything that you had that was positive with your own darkness. What was a source of joy will become a source of sorrow in your memories. No meeting is eternal, but what you make of the catalyst is always of your own choosing.
In thankfulness there is no place for expectations of more, nor feelings that something has to be resolved, restored or rectified. It is a state having come to terms with what was and having distilled the influence it had upon yourself, which enables to be at peace.
Meeting anyone is always just coincidence and an unknown in two journeys of self-discovery. There are little reasons, if any, to not find to be thankful unless we don't learn what it is teaching us about ourselves. There is never really anything that is all that personal in relationships, are others not just other-yous after all? Anything that you have felt for someone could've been felt for someone other and so the issues that you have are always more about your own self than the person with whom you were in a relationship with. So finding to be thankful is really a work of distilling what is about yourself and from there you let go of these cords (your own clinging) and can then open yourself to new opportunities. Because life is truly only opportunity.
This can apply to more than just human relationships. I know of someone that I know will have a really hard time with their dog's death in a few year, because of how much it has been a source of love and emotional support, and this was the answer that I came up with to help alleviate the depression. To find to be thankful for what was. The dog would not want you to curl up on yourself and wither, it would not want you to stop loving new things, heck dogs love meeting new dogs and people themselves more than we even do. If you find to be thankful, then the thought of it will bring you joy, but if you keep it about yourself and your owns lessons and beliefs that you can't hold on without it, do well in life or be happy with just yourself, then you are tainting everything that you had that was positive with your own darkness. What was a source of joy will become a source of sorrow in your memories. No meeting is eternal, but what you make of the catalyst is always of your own choosing.
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