How to properly cut cords with somebody?

[Loki]

I don't like the idea that I'm treated as worthless and cast aside, but she still gets something from me, even though she does nothing for me and has no positive regard towards me. Maybe that's selfish and not STO, bit like I said, I'm not very STO. I, like many, lie within the sinkhole of indifference. In general, I just dont like the thought of helping somebody who shamed me and cast me out of their life in a cruel manner. It doesn't seem fair to me. If you completely cut me out of your life, refuse to recpncile forgive or accept apologies and refuse to have anything to do with me, then I shouldn't be doing s*** to help you out with your life. That's just not fair to me. You forfeit the right to that when you tell me to never contact you again and block me everytime I try to apologize and reestablish contact.

You must get to the point you see her as a cat. My cat treats me as worthless and I still care for her, I even find it funny. I do not suffer for what she does to me because I do not have service-to-self feeling for my cat. I see the feeling of being addicted to someones presence as a service-to-self type of interaction where we need their presence for ourselves regardless of their disposition.

It's tough because humans always confuse being in love service-to-self with loving service-to-others.

Easier said than done but in my life twice I was able to cross to the other side. It sucks while crossing but once on the other side there is such a strong feeling of being free when you can be nice towards that person without needing anything in return. And it almost works as a magnet for the other person except you are over it.