avoidant dismissive attachment

[EvolvingPhoenix]

That sucks. I know it's hard to heal from old pain and sometimes, you become very negative to cope, and it only makes things worse, giving you more reason to be negative. I dunno if this person is a wanderer. Perhaps they are if these are their life challenges. I know that anger and hate very well. It is possible this friend of yours will have lucid moments, but if they don't actively try to break the cycle, they'll probably just get worse, sadly. Perhaps Agua may have some advice regarding this friend of yours? I struggle too much with my own issues to know how to help your friend, unfortunately.

Yes they are a wanderer the signs have been explicit, confirmed repeatedly though I am unsure if they were swept into the karmic maelstrom in another life and still trying to get free or if they were born into the horrors they were to as generally done forgive and so doing mop up karma.  I will stay as long as my service is requested but no longer expect straight and narrow path toward healing so hopefully not be again so heart broken when they change direction. Otherwise I have use the little personal will I have been taught to harness(from a shaman) and asked entities willing to unite their will with mine to help bring them healing and a return to their soul. I see nothing else I can do but be here if they reach a hand out to again try healing.

The stats are 25% have this avoidant attachment, 25% have anxious and suffered the same types of trauma yet instead it made them move nervously but surely towards attachment vs away and open the heart to connection and empathy, the remaining are called secure attachment and they are the 50% majority who are comfortable with connection and have varying degrees of need for it and empathy.

I seriously envy that 50%

I am working hard to become one among them. Until then, I'm in the second group you mentioned, I think. I really hope for your friend that they heal themselves. I know all too well the pain of reaching out and then reverting to my olf negative ways and lashing out at people who care for me. It's a horrible cycle to be stuck in, and it feels like hell. Your friend has my deepest sympathies.

Side note: How do you know if somebody is a wanderer, Glow? What explicit signs and confirmations can show that somebody is a wanderer?

Also, as a person who is themselves "caught up in the karmic maelstrom" I would have to say it looks like your wanderer friend is too.