(06-05-2019, 08:36 AM)Nau7ik Wrote: Yes it is a distortion which causes blockage. There is a difference though between true BDSM, the master and slave mentality, belief in inferior and superior, and practicing that belief, THAT is negatively polarizing. Expressed as a consensual kink, it is a distortion. I have this distortion. I think consensual bdsm is sexually exciting. I don’t practice it, but in porn it’s hot. I keep it in fantasy. I’ve tried light bdsm with partners but found that I did not like it.
How is this distortion to be balanced?
I would say opening green ray further, maybe some blue ray understanding.
As a kid I was into that even up to early thirties. It came from being sexually abused as a child and then treated like a throw away growing up.
I know another also who was sexually abused (a male) and had this distortion in both cases it was an actual blockage. It may have seemed exciting and sexy but deep at its root was a memory of being treated as a thing for others pleasure, and that was tangled up somehow with that being how one knows they are really “loved”/wanted/accepted.
In both our cases it went away as the heart open further to not just embrace other but also ourselves.
It’s funny now to think back that I thought that was hot.
It’s so very clear from this side of healing that it was a furthering of the original wound, or at minimum reinforcement of the belief about self at its depth.
Just my 2cents