Sex addicted husband

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Hi everyone,
I don't know if this is the right place to talk about my problem. Recently I found that my partner is a sex addict! He is 6 years younger than me, and we got married 3 years ago. He always watches porn films and when I ask him about that he replies that it gives him a kind of pleasure. I understood from his talks that he is a victim of child molestation and I was feeling sympathy for him. I really don’t know to explain my feelings. He always wants to have sex, and only sex. When I don’t say yes, he keeps pressuring me which he is doing for the past 3 years. He never showed any interest to talk with me. I truly love him like anything and I simply need him to love me back. I have tried talking to him regarding this, but it’s of no use. I contacted a sexual addiction treatment center ( http://edgewoodhealthnetwork.com/what-we...addiction/  ) in Montreal and got an appointment. But I am confused! How will I convince him for the appointment? Can you please share your suggestions regarding this? Thanks in advance.

1. You need to care for yourself and make healthy boundaries. If you don't want sex then just kindly inform him that you'll want sex later and not to badger you about it.
2. Sex addiction is often an orange ray blockage. This is classic for abuse victims. The abuse means that their ability to feel emotional pleasure as an individual is hampered. Their sexual energy is all tied up with abuse which leads to a distortion of trying to minimize the personal aspect of sex as to not activate the orange ray center and thus trigger painful memories. This leads to an obsessive objectification based on red-ray sexuality. Because this sex isn't fulfilling emotionally he will constantly crave more. Until he can unblock his orange ray and feel pleasure in being himself in his body then he'll struggle with this nagging sexual need for release. Fundamentally this wound comes from his autonomy being violated with regard to sexuality.
3. Making appointments behind someone's back and then plotting to "convince him" is controlling. You need to respect his autonomy (see point 2). This will mean you need to be kind and clear about your needs and let him come to his own conclusion without manipulation. Please see this website on non-violent communication methods. It will help you communicate without manipulation which is critical for him as a victim of abuse.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nonviolent...n#Overview