03-18-2017, 03:02 PM
I don't want to argue with anyone but I would just like to point on the idea that "actual men are needed" that "fathers and mothers are terrible". There seems to be an issue rooted in attachment to outcome in my opinion, like there is a single way of things to play out perfectly but it doesn't seem like this is the case to me. For exemple you would probably think my mother is a terrible mother that she needs to toughen up. But I think shes an angel. I love her how she is and I need her exactly how she is. On the other hand my father is an ass. He's a real man. But you know what? He's an ass because his mom was an ass. So I've got both figure to compare and all I have to say is things play out how we need them no matter what. We choose our catalyst so we can learn something, so we can heal. My father is an ass because he has not learned to forgive his mom and himself for his weakness. I am totally giving up this path myself. I see him as the most hurt person I have ever met. What have you learn to accept and heal from your family situation? Do you understand why it is that your mom is how she is? Does it happen she may have had a terrible dad to her eyes?