Also I'm very open to share my vulnerability when having one on one interactions I just don't think it serves these kind of threads well as it will inevitably distort social subjects into personal ones. My take on this is that although we have to acknowledge the pain we also have to acknowledge the different levels of pain. Putting them all in the same basket is sure to cause more confusion and get each of us further from the actual source of these different pains.
I would add that I sense from many of your post your eager to share a very important information that is: rationalisation is a cover for pain. But I would say pain is also often the result of mind constructs, which is why I would suggest it is also good to see vulnerability in sharing the mind construct as well. And to discuss them is also taking steps toward knowing oneself. Acknowledging vulnerability is very important but it's also very important to be able to move along life not feeling like a victim as that creates a very strong feeling of seperation within oneself.
I would add that I sense from many of your post your eager to share a very important information that is: rationalisation is a cover for pain. But I would say pain is also often the result of mind constructs, which is why I would suggest it is also good to see vulnerability in sharing the mind construct as well. And to discuss them is also taking steps toward knowing oneself. Acknowledging vulnerability is very important but it's also very important to be able to move along life not feeling like a victim as that creates a very strong feeling of seperation within oneself.