Session 31 - As a Gay Man, I think Ra's take on Homosexuality is idiotic

[ricdaw]

Anyway, I would not repress my emotions and I hope no one else will do so. There are exercises to alleviate the emotion. In Carla's Law of One 101 book she refers to strengthening the emotional charge and then switching to its opposite to balance the 2.  I find this rather hard. Another exercise is to strengthen the emotional charge until is peters out on its own volition. I find that with enough emphasis, my emotional charge can become silly to me, and my mind creates a vision of me in a silly position, which dissipates the emotion. For example, if I am angry about social injustice, I intensify this emotion until I suddenly see myself as Joan of Arc racing across the country on a horse, which inevitably disfuses the emotion.

P.S. Love Farside.

Life goes on.

Another way (but one which is really hard to do in realtime) is to imagine an excuse/reason/motivation for the Otherself's action/words that could justify a loving response. Someone cuts you off in traffic? => family crisis and racing home to fix it. Gay slur => secretly and tortured gay themselves. Racist => taught fear by family and Fox news. None of these might be true, of course. But if I can imagine any possible kindness, then I find it much easier to come to the loving place.

But when you're in the bar, drink in hand, and witness aggression, homophobia or racism, it's hard to find the charitable thought when you are flushed with adrenaline!

Love you all.