unconditional love

[WanderingOZ]

are your feelings controlled by your thoughts? e.g. i love because x, or can you tap into it by will and blank mind/thought?

This is a tricky one Papercut. But your mind should control your emotions and thats really hard to learn if you just try to tackle the emotions. You have to come at it from a different direction. I think it starts from where we all started and thats looking for a greater truth than what we're been led to beleave.
Expanding ones epathy to everybody you come across. No exceptions. Asking yourself how would I like to be treated in this situation. Doing this all the time till it becomes 2nd nature so you don't even think about it, till your just doing it instinctively, opens your heart and expands your consciousness . This expansion of consciousness allows you love all things in a completly different way, allowing your emotions to drop away as love conquers all. There's a little more to it but thats it in a nut shell.
Just as a side note. As soon as you go looking for a greater truth. You become an initiate into the greater mysteries of the universe. This is part of the path we walk. So walk well my fellow wanderers.
Ps. This is how things worked for me.
WanderingOZ