Session 31 - As a Gay Man, I think Ra's take on Homosexuality is idiotic

[Jade]

Can I be blunt? I am sick and tired of straight men proclaiming the truth about homosexuality. How about instead of proclaiming, you simply ASK GAY PEOPLE?!?!!  Would that require too much humility?

What is the truth about homosexuality?  As a straight man, I am curious.  Is it how I feel the desires for love, affection, sex, companionship etc towards women, except towards men, or is it not that simplistic?

Also, for the record, gay men are probably MORE gracious with women than straight men. I always open doors for women, for example. Were you saying that if there is no sexual interest, a man will not treat women with respect and good manners?  Women are our mothers. Now THAT is an instinctive dynamic right there. Women are our sisters and friends. When I see a young woman struggling with 2 small children, I instinctively rush to open the door for her or help in any way I can. SHE is the mother of the human race. It doesn't take a fantasy about her vagina to force me to be a decent human being.

I don't think that Jade was saying that without sexual interest/attraction a man wouldn't treat a women with respect, but that it is a powerful and driving factor in the way in which he would interact her.  When I see a girl I am attracted to, that attraction can and often does act like 'tunnel vision' with all other stimuli being pushed aside for that moment.  It's like being taken over by something and can make you act in ways which feel almost out of your control.  I don't think it is really fair to compare straight men to gay men when it comes to treatment of women, as the dynamic is quite different.  Sexual attraction is a powerful influence.  Maybe you open doors and are kind to women, not because they are women, but because you have compassion and enjoy helping people in need.  Just a thought.

Perhaps Jade was trying to liken the human experience to her interpretation of the archetypes? i.e. in a typical relationship a man is trying to "court the maiden" on his own personal Fool's Journey? Perhaps with gay people every card which is male is female and vice versa? Just a thought.

"Courting the maiden" in the transformation card has nothing to do with gender, except archetypically, where the male pursues the female - the yang reaches for the yin, the will reaches for the subconscious resources. Billy is close to what I mean, speaking through the gendered lens. Apparently, according to Ra, as physical expressions of gender, we are predisposed to acting out upon those lines - the male reaching for the female. Two opposite poles seeking their balance. The yin and the yang form a perfect and complete circle. This "coupling"/transfer/whatever you want to call it, is available to any man and woman who come together and desire for this transfer. It just takes a little more effort to affect this transfer when the genders aren't automatically polarized.