Psychic attack

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I've been accused of being 'STS' on this forum numerous times in the past. If accusations were reliable assessments of individuals it would be a very troubling world, indeed.

Perhaps one can look at what is being offered rather than what one expects to be offered? Holding everyone to some arbitrary standard of 'love/light' really only speaks of one's own limits of understanding.

I meant to a certain aggressive approach lacking emotion. Not actually indicating one being STS, nevertheless you're right.

I understand what you mean, but I might ask, what is the difference between such 'aggression' and 'passion'? I would wager that most people get aggressive because of emotion, not the lack thereof.

The idea of 'lacking emotion' is a personal one for me since it's again something I have been accused of. I've been accused of being incapable of personal love or sentimental emotions. All of which is untrue, but because I am not emotional in my expression it is often taken that I lack the emotions.

The question for me is, why is this approach so bothersome? Why are people so affected by what they perceive as 'cold' responses? Is it because they expect a warmer emotion or because they are identifying with that state and are not comfortable with it themselves?

We have so many expectations of eachother.

I guess each issue to it's own. Specifically speaking though, cold responses sometimes do matter if an individual speaks about his life experience.

Well there is no doubt that these things matter, but I am always trying to understand why they matter I suppose. There is always some interplay between individuals and how they react to each other.

The challenge here is that everyone has a different thermometer. What is 'cold' to one person may not be so to another so it's a pretty hard way to measure oneself in the world, methinks.

I wish we could communicate through our heart and not by words that have so much distortion/separation.