I don't think familial bonds count in unconditional love.

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I just have a hard time grasping this concept of unconditional love when it comes to the self.

If you love "without reason and without expectation", how do you do that without expecting yourself to do that and without the reason that you want to do it without reason? I'm splitting hairs with words here, but that's because it's a key semantic point.

I understand what you're trying to say is "without expectation of return", but that is different than strictly without reason or expectation. Even if your reason is "because we are one", you still have a reason. The expectation is still "more positivity" or "more love" or any other kind of empowerment.

The fact is that we choose to love because we believe it is positive and it is delusional to think we are not gaining that benefit or do not have that reason.

I don't think it's something that can be a consious decision. The reason is because that's who you are. When I was 17 I had an awakening. 20+ years ago and no internet I didn't know what it was but after a horrible life of every abuse I accepted Christ, and that night laying in bed my heart region grew very hot. It's actually the reason for my name. It felt hot like light. It felt like an expansion of light and I spontaneously started visualizing sending that light out to people and the world. That was cough 22 years ago no internet and I was in a Christian faith who certainly didn't talk of such things. After that I started driving down the road sending blessings to everyone I saw.

So from that I can only see the condition was me. No one else had any effect, the condition of unconditional love is within the one who is loving.

Edited to add I am no longer a Christian, the bible isn't a true interpretation of Christ consiousness in my opinion. It's hidden in there but covered in muck.