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[Stranger]

Yes and I would say that allowing ourselves to balance this little by little should not really feel like a sacrifice, it should make us feel joy.

I'd say that finding that joy is the challenge. We find it through love. If there is one cookie left and it looks delicious to both of us, it's helpful to find sufficient love for the other-self to let them have it and be happy that they do. We feel that naturally with our kids and romantic partners, but extending it to others is the trick.