(02-26-2016, 10:50 AM)GentleWanderer Wrote: How to recognize when such a thing is happening ? And how to stop it ?
It is really just a matter of bringing your awareness to bear on a given situation. You can innately feel when you're being manipulated if you really search your feelings. The feeling of being used or controlled rarely feels wholly good. Even in people who mask their manipulation in insincere niceties, there is a characteristic "mental tension" that is apparent if you care to look. The feeling of, "there are uncomfortable expectations of me", as opposed to the feeling of, "I feel open and free to act exactly how I want to act in this moment".
In other words, you can feel the "pull" of STS intent.