Boundaries

[rva_jeremy]

My problem is that every time I find a desire it is a desire of not wanting something.

Yeah, I think I understand: it's confounding to manifest a negative. But a negative has one advantage: it makes room for the answer to a question. Diana had a great suggestion: try just saying no to things and see how reinforcing that negative space opens up room. It's worth a try, because I get what you're saying that you kind of aren't sure how to bootstrap this.

Also, remember that none of this is purely or even substantially intellectual. I found that paying attention to my emotions yielded a tremendous dimension of experience that I had not really respected. There is a lot of content there and it's not just baggage--that's what I used to think, effectively.