02-05-2016, 05:47 PM
Hi Jeremy.
I can somewhat relate to your position and it's an important cathartic process I feel. I wonder if using 2 metaphors, a shield and a sword, might assist you in some way?
In my understanding, personal boundaries and the liberty to assert them are very important. When I took on the challenge of remaining devoted to my current partner (for example), I was told more than once that, "you need to set boundaries". The female psyche tends towards the subjective and in my experience, this tendency can be tempered, or balanced, by clear communication and resilience.
Manipulative behaviour that is housed within a monogamous context is usually a back door means of communicating one's needs. Overt hints soon transform into covert planning imo. At least that is how I see it after many years of self, and other self psychoanalysis.
I would recommend a book by James Redfield, titled 'The Celestine Prophecy'. It's an adventure parable that portrays manipulation in a more natural context, rather than a manipulation = sts = depolorising linear fashion.
Also, here is an interview with James that touches base (I think) with what you are expressing.
The only other thing I would like to add is, rather than fear your own power and shy away from your innate properties, you might instead contemplate why you brought them with you in the first place.
Much love brother
I can somewhat relate to your position and it's an important cathartic process I feel. I wonder if using 2 metaphors, a shield and a sword, might assist you in some way?
In my understanding, personal boundaries and the liberty to assert them are very important. When I took on the challenge of remaining devoted to my current partner (for example), I was told more than once that, "you need to set boundaries". The female psyche tends towards the subjective and in my experience, this tendency can be tempered, or balanced, by clear communication and resilience.
Manipulative behaviour that is housed within a monogamous context is usually a back door means of communicating one's needs. Overt hints soon transform into covert planning imo. At least that is how I see it after many years of self, and other self psychoanalysis.
I would recommend a book by James Redfield, titled 'The Celestine Prophecy'. It's an adventure parable that portrays manipulation in a more natural context, rather than a manipulation = sts = depolorising linear fashion.
Also, here is an interview with James that touches base (I think) with what you are expressing.
The only other thing I would like to add is, rather than fear your own power and shy away from your innate properties, you might instead contemplate why you brought them with you in the first place.
Much love brother
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